So recently I’ve made the declaration that I’d stop looking at porn for the reasons listed below… 1) I want to be able to get off (orgasm) without having to look at porn

2) I want to maintain more healthier kinks, and stop looking at images which has been enabling me to keep going for the extreme (such as lolicon, etc.)

3) I want to specifically figure out what pleases me sexually too, since I’ve realized that all of my fantasies and consumption of porn has been from a voyeuristic lense; I’ve rarely to never fantasized about what I want others to do me, but instead what I want to see other people do each other

So for all of the reasons above, I’m looking for some guidance or comradery from others who struggle with these things 🥺

** what strategies has helped you to know your own sexual turn on’s, despite your voyeuristic tendencies from porn?

** and how have you been able to abstain from fantasizing about extreme kinks to much more healthier ones, and consistently orgasming from them?