Hi M 27 single here.

A bit of background- So, i am a single guy, unsettled and working on a career progression.

Had a history of porn addiction during my puberty .

From recent past 1 year in a relation with girl, had sex many times, but had to move away due to job location so ended relation, now again single. After breakup had gone back to porn, but trying to avoid it and go porn free.

The problem i find is if i quit masturbation(without p) then the energy i get is so high it gives me urges to masturbate and i do it too much and then need porn again to feel that good.

So now i am juggling and trying to balance out my being singleness, if i dont masturbate i get very high energy, no gf, no sex, but if i masturbate then cant balance the mo without p.

I go gym 2-3 times a week. Have a 9 to 5 job. And live alone. No friends as i am immigrant.

Possible paths - 1)try dating on bumble and tinder? (Casual flings) 2)try not to masturbate and just focus on gym and career being single. 3) masturbate without porn in a regular manner and focus on workout and goals.