Saw a question that said: how do you define cheating? And someone replied "going outside of established boundaries in a romantic relationship." Which, of course, makes sense; and someone poly replied to that that in poly relationships cheating can happen too.

To me, this statement goes against the whole compersion thing that they claim to feel seeing their partner(s) being happy with other people. And it goes against the whole "loving someone without fear or shame of acting on those feelings".

They have big claims of being free of loving and loving infinitely so why set boundaries that act like restrictions on that freedom.

If one happens to find someone else outside the "boundary" of not seeing others outside of whoever is in the "established" relationship, and they are happy having a new relationship with that new person, why is it considered cheating? Shouldn't everyone else feel happy that that person is happy?