This post is a little more Bi focused than Poly focused, but this still feels like the best place to ask for support. NP (F39) and I (M39) are married and have been together for about a decade. We're both bi & poly in orientation, but not practice (aka, we're well-read but have only been on a few dates prior to the pandemic). The only real source of tension in our relationship is mismatched libido (I've got lots, she doesn't). This mismatch is part of what led us toward polyamory.

In the past few weeks my NP has been exploring the Stone identity as an affirming way of describing her desire and intimacy patterns (much less interest in being touched than previously, diminishing interest in receiving pleasure). I guess I'm asking if anyone here can share experiences with a partner changing/exploring new aspects of their identity in similar ways? How did you keep the energetic sense of "we/us" as the physical connections became fewer and further between?