I know there is some controversy within the LGBTQ community about non-monosexual people identifying as bisexual rather than pan- or omnisexual, but personally it is the label that I am most comfortable in. For me, that's because my understanding of the difference between pan or omni and bi is whether or not gender expression plays a role in your attraction to a person. I definitely feel different about my attraction to men and my role in a relationship with a man than I do when I'm with a woman.

A few months ago I entered a relationship with another woman, and I am also married to a man. Everything has been wonderful, but I've noticed that I express myself differently around each of them. When I am with my girlfriend, I am assertive and take charge. To be honest, I often feel like I am a man when I am with her- whether that's just the result of internalized homophobia or not, I haven't quite figured out yet. But when I am with my husband, I am more passive and like to let him handle the ropes. I feel more feminine and more comfortable with the fact that I am a woman when I'm with a man. So when we are all playing video games or watching TV together, I feel almost a little disoriented and unsure of my own identity.

Does anyone else experience something similar to this? I don't know whether or not it is healthy, and I would like to integrate these sides of me, but at the moment I'm not sure how.