Hey there, first if all I am not a native speaker, so sorry if there are some funny words. I really just mean the best.

My partner and I have been working and talking for a long time and we agreed on non monogamy. However my partner needs a lot of insurance and is worried that I will find someone else and leave him because of that. He is a little clingy and I feel like he monitors my behaviour somehow. He often asks if I am texting someone. Honestly I can understand him, but I don’t like feeling like he looks at everything I do. I wanna tell him on my own terms if I text someone or if I wanna see someone. So that makes me anxious that I am not allowed to text someone despite him telling me he would be fine. My biggest concern is, that I eventually decide to meet up with someone and he will be depressed and overwhelmed by that. I think that would make me feel guilty and selfish. I kinda battle with myself because I wanna overcome feeling of being responsible for his emotions.

Do you have some advice for me?