How do you know that you’re poly / poly works for you?

Here is where I’m at - 26 / F.

monogamy feels weird and icky to me. Relationship anarchy makes sense and feels good to me (so far). I ended my last relationship which was monogamous, due to several incompatibilities, one being that non monogamy was a hard no for her.

I am currently seeing one person (we’ve been on 3 dates) and just ended “things” with another person due to incompatibilities. I’m really happy and excited with where my connection is going with the one person I’m seeing. I don’t feel super compelled to go on dates with more new people right now. I’m nervous that this is a sign that I’m not actually poly. On our last date she asked me if I’m going on lots of dates right now, and I replied “no”, and tried to explain how I feel as though I am picky and it’s hard to find people who align with what I’m looking for. Which is all true. I’m just thinking a lot about whether this means I’m truly poly or not.