Me (34f) and my wife (36f) live in Canada, and in the last few year my wife has date a few different women, most of whom I met, and several with disastrous results. Both of us have gone several major life events since we got married 4 years ago. We have been calling this thing ethical non-monogamy, I haven’t tried dating anyone although I’m not opposed to it, I’m just trying to maintain my friendships and stuff. I’ve been supportive through dating and heartbreak and life events. I think being polygamous is just a natural part of my wife’s identity, I love her the way she is.

She falls for people hard and fast, and Ive had to comfort her through a few really shitty break ups. Ive assured her when the shame gremlins are telling her that non monogamy is bad. And our marriage is still strong and healthy, I know she loves me and is still invested in improving our relationship.

Yesterday she got on the plane to travel to the USA, to visit her long distance girlfriend of 3 months, she will be back in 10 days. I’m usually the one reassuring her, that our relationship is strong and I am happy to share her. But now that she is out of sight I feel foolish for letting her go.

I think I am mainly looking forward assuring that there are poly people out there that are dating and married and making it work.