I never use barriers of any kind with other women. I never have. So I have frequent barrier free sex with many women including my girlfriend and swinging partners. My male partner never uses barriers for oral with women (he only has sex with women).

My male partner and I both go barrier free with two of our casual threesome friends (women).

We also go barrier free with three other swinger couples (M/F couples) that we play with. One of whom is in a triad with one of our threesome friends. All of whom also sleep with each other.

We test every three months. Its been a non issue and none of our other partners care.

If I met someone who did mind, we simply wouldn't be compatible.

Just throwing out an anecdote because its different from the common narrative, but I think more common in real life than online discussions lead people to believe.

I'm not saying others should do anything differently. I'm not saying whats right for me is a good idea for others. Just saying there is a wider variety of practice than discussed in online spaces. Which is why no one should assume there is one standard mode of operation. People should ask questions, assess risk, and ask for the agreements they need rather than assume everyone is behaving a certain way.

I'm not especially interested in hot takes on my choices although I'm sure they are incoming. So I probably won't respond to anything judgemental or nasty.

But its just a data point for people who ask this question and get answers that appear to be monolithic when the truth is more variable.

Practice varies widely, but only a certain approach is discussed widely in online spaces. It gives people a false sense of insight.

Edit: I updated to specify that my swinging partner is a man