I’ve been seeing my partner for a year. We were friends for a couple of years before this. We have both seen other people during this time and she currently has another partner.

She told me she loves me unconditionally. She said that romantic love fades over time but the love she has for me is lasting and is unconditional. As we had been friends, I checked that her love was indeed with romantic feelings and not just as a friend and she says yes she loves me romantically but on top of that she has this unconditional love.

I keep thinking about it. I see how she is with her other partner who she doesn’t love unconditionally, the way she will be jealous or hurt about things he does. The way she is with me, she wants me to be happy and I don’t see jealously or her upset about things I do, I don’t want to upset her, don’t get me wrong, I guess I just see the love for him is passionate whereas this unconditional love feels lesser (I know people strive to get this love so I’m not trying to put it down). I guess I feel like I wish she loved me like him, like I don’t want this unconditional love.

I don’t know if this makes sense. I think I’m trying to understand my feelings. Does anyone get this or understand how I’m feeling?