Hello all!

For background I started poly dating this past year so a bit new to it but did all the reading and self work before hand. Overall learning a lot about myself and making lovely connections.

I have started dating a new person that I know has multiple partners (one nesting partner and various friends with benefits or dating situations). Everything is really lovely with them and they are super open about everything. We talked about our sexual health screening/practices before having sex, but not detailed information about how many partners we have etc. I wasn’t sure if this was just going to be a few hookups or something more, so I didn’t really feel the need to know anything else for just a few dates, as far as sexual health is concerned.

We wound up hitting it off and have gone on multiple dates and even got coffee with them and their nesting partner. We are all trans folks in a small city and that felt very natural and standard for queer dating here 😄

My question is, how much do you usually ask or know about your partner’s sexual habits? I don’t feel the need to know for any emotional reasons, I mean more for your own sexual health. If it’s something you usually do like to know, how do you usually go about asking? I’m all about informed and enthusiastic consent, so I guess I’m just asking myself how informed I need to be? Maybe I just use condoms and continue to get tested regularly? What do y’all typically do? 😅

Thank you for your advice!