I posted in the main sub and was basically told I’m a lying asshole. So that’s cool.

But then I got invited here so figured I’d post here to just in case.

Gonna try and shorten this rather than sharing the whole long post.

After being mono for my whole life, I’ve been poly for 2 years. I’m single and haven’t had any serious relationships since being poly. So really I’m just dating multiple people but not really “hiding it” the way that is more common in mono world where people “date around” before they define the relationship.

I’m not sure if poly is for me long term and am open to being mono again but do have some hesitation bc of past experiences.

I started dating someone about 6 weeks ago. He was married for like 10 years and has always had mono relationships. I told him about my current status (poly but not sure if it’s for the long term) on date 2. He said he only had a passing understanding of what poly was but was open to discussing.

Since then we have continues to talk and hang out. I don’t know if he’s dating others and he hasn’t asked me if I am. He’s expressed hesitation about getting into something serious post divorce so we are trying to take it slow.

But it also feels really “right” to me and it seems to be the same for him.

I’ve been expecting him to ask me more about poly and what that would mean for our future or how he feels about it but he hasn’t. I think it’s time to broach it again since we are starting to talk about the future and stuff.

The feedback I’ve gotten from many is that I haven’t disclosed enough.

Yes, I’m a little afraid that I may lose him if I’m not willing to give up poly. But also maybe I am ready to give it up for him…at least as a trial run? But then again I don’t think he’s ready for something serious yet.

I’m just out here trying not to be an asshole but also not overshare (my tendency) and blow everything up before it gets started