DD/LG Means "Daddy Dom/Little Girl" dynamic NP means Nesting partner, as in the partner I am currently married to and living with.

I need help. How do you get over your feelings of jealousy and being replaced? My NP and me started into a Ddlg dynamic a couple of years ago. I will be the first to tell you I wasn't not a good daddy or dom. Between dealing with a bad breakup and having two small kids the last two years I havnt been consistent with rules or punishments or even being a good caregiver. I thought I was but deep down inside of me I know I wasn't.

My NP recently started dating someone else and they have a lot of D/S aspects of their relationship including using a tracker to track progress on them. I tried to get back into our "dynamic" after my NP went to visit their partner but my NP said they weren't sure if they wanted to be in one with me anymore. I understand why but it doesn't hurt any less knowing why. I want that back into our relationship and want to be better and actually be a daddy dom. We have been fighting since they got back from their trip a month ago because I can't get past my own emotions and feelings of not being loved and wanted. During the last month I uncollared my NP because I felt it wasn't right for them to wear it while I was like this, I hadn't earned the right of having them collared. Well I recently found out that their partner calls my NP the honorific that I had for them. And they have called their partner my honorific a few times by mistake. We fought about that because though I never expressly told my NP that I didn't want their parnter calling them the honorific I use for them I thought it didnt need to be said. My NP partner knows thats my honorific for them as well but still uses it and my NP hasnt told them not to. NP promised me they wouldnt use my honorific with their partner but they have a few times on accident during sexting and video calls of that nature.

I just feel like I've completely lost that part of them and I'm just lost. I don't know what to do with myself which has made my mental health plummet as well as severely affecting my partners mental health and our relationship. I just need advice on how to be okay with these things, how to get past the feelings of being replaced and the feelings of not being good enough. I can't stop comparing our relationships to each other. I need help and to vent because if we continue to fight like this I'm going to lose not only that side of my NP but possibly lose them altogether as well. I can't express my emotions without it starting a fight because my NP has autism and says that I'm always attacking and accusing them. None of the issues I have brought up have felt resolved because they shut down and I find myself apologizing even when I'm the one who got hurt by their actions.