I love the excitement that comes from connecting with someone new. It feels like a high when someone wants to flirt, share pics and videos and talk about fantasies. On the apps or IRL.

But like any high, it can’t last forever. And I’m struggling coming down from it. In particular, I find myself getting unjustifiably annoyed with my wife (43). She’s great and I love her very much. She’s supportive and caring. She’s also not into sharing pics or sexting. Dirty talk is off a table. We have sex once or twice a week which is considerably less than I would prefer.

I’m trying to figure out how to shut off the part of my brain that constantly desires NRE. Or to at least manage it so I’m less of a dick to my wife — looking for something from her that is unrealistic to expect. Any advice?l