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This is a followup to an earlier post on a different community. The advice for that post was beautiful and helpful but sprcific to the sex work. I now know more about the situation and hoping for practical help for truly poly encountersr. I ask that people not be judgemental but that's probably not necessary since this group is so open minded and eloquent...but asking anyway..

Here's my situation and my thoughts.

I (54M) am in a whirlwind romance with a woman (48F) who has an extraordinary day job, a sugar daddy (4 hours one day a month), occasionally escorts (I have never been a client), has several sex buddies (once every few months or so) and sometimes likes to have random sex encounters when she finds someone attractive (all gender types). Shes loves it all.

She is beautiful, funny, sweet, vulnerable, strong as hell (in every way), independent, insightful, creative, and incredibly sexy. She is intoxicating. We are both kinky and so we mesh in that way. We are planning to establish relationship boundaries this weekend hence my post now.

I'm ok with the sugar daddy and escorting, because it's a job, she likes it, has done it for a long time, uses protection, trained in martial arts, and promises to call me after so I know she's ok.

She is completely open and has told me about the random people she is having sex with (although she hasn't since we started her relationship). This is very hard for me to hear. But it's a part of her life and I need to be able to handle all of it.

Here are the 3 practical measures Ive thought of to help dealing with the jealousy. Please provide feedback and any other practical suggestions you have:

Ask her to choose a sexual activity that would just be for me. The action itself could be pretty mundane, it wouldnt really matter. It's asserting some degree of control that matters, whether or not this is healthy (feedback welcome)

Take on some lovers myself. I'm naturally mono in a relationship but knowing that she wants me to do it makes it suddenly sound kinda hot.

I think this one might work: Ask her to introduce power exchange into the encounter, preferably dominated by a man or trans, but free to switch with a woman (nothing that could put her in harms way e.g. No rope, caging, dangerous play. I on the last did share a submissive with another Dom (independent encounters) and it was hot and Iliked it. I know it is controlling but that's built into the power exchange relationship anyway. Has anybody done something like this? (I know this isn't a power exchange community but I'm guessing most here understand anyway.)

Thats all I've got. Thanks to all iin advance. PLEASE share your feedback and especially your experiences. Help me keep going on this journey. I don't want to stop or turn around. I think she may be the (primary) one for me.