My partner (33/M/Canada) and I (31/F/Canada) live in a small conservative city and are not open to most of our friends and all of our family. We started by opening online, mostly by posting Reddit R4R's, and we're looking for other options. We date separately.

Has anyone used Lex? I've heard it's revamped and working for the LGTBQ community but how is it for non-monogamous people?

Are there any other websites/apps you guys have used to meet people online anonymously? Or locally anonymously in a small community? I've heard Feeld is kind of hit or miss and it isn't great if you're not in a big city.

Sorry if something like this has been asked before, I appreciate any advice!

Edit: Hey, I hear y'all, and agree even. Pictureless = Problem. If you have any other ideas on how to stay anonymous in a small community as I described, I'd love to hear it. I'm very happy for those of you that can post your pictures, envious even, but that's just not where we're at for the time being. I'm hoping to find something similar to Reddit R4R's where you can post a bit about yourself anonymously that just isn't Reddit. And while all your opinions are cool and I guess what I'd expect from the internet, I'd love to get some advice which is why I posted on this "advice" sub, you know? Cause I already know it's difficult, haha. Thank you to those of you that have provided some!