This is a gentle moderator plea for plain language as much as feasible and possible. Jargon can be a great shortcut. We all use it. We use it at work, in hobbies, and in subcultures. Especially when among others from the same subculture.

But this place is for and is frequented by people new to the concepts of polyamory and non-monogamy. So it’s not required, but please strongly consider describing your relationships, desires, and giving advice in plain language. Jargon can also very often deteriorate into dehumanizing language intentionally or by accident.

Again, these are only suggestions. But they will add clarity and cut down on bad communication. 

• Instead of polyamory you could say “I want relationships where everyone is free to have multiple romantic and sexual partners”. Obviously it’s fine to use the word polyamory here (It’s in the sub name!!), but it’s a great example because many new people don’t understand the difference between polyamory and other kinds of non-monogamy. 
• Instead of meta you could say “my partners’ other partners”
• Instead of kitchen table polyamory you could say “I’d like my partner to be comfortable and willing to spend time together and I’d like to spend time with their partners”
• Instead of saying you want to find a third or a **unicorn** (very dehumanizing by the way) you could say say something like….”I’d like to find a man/woman/person for a triad” or “I’d like to find a man/woman/person for a casual threesome”
• Instead of saying polycule, you could say “my partner and all their partners” (this one is awkward, I confess), but many new people don’t know the difference between a polycule and triad or a polycule and a group relationship of any number of people
• Instead of saying **the lifestyle**  you could, at least, specify if you mean swinging (swingers call swinging the lifestyle) or open for sex or open for romance aka polyamory.