My wife would agree that I'm an overexplainer in a lot of ways, but I want to be really clear even if I feel a little vulnerable doing it. I created this anon account to try to minimize some of that. I'm sure there's some way I could verify I'm real but I'm not here to trade nudes. I'm really sorry if this is too long or breaks some rule, I'm new and trying my best. Even though I say "I" we both have access to the account and are a thousand percent transparent with each other. She wrote our dating app profile, but thought it would be a good idea if I participated in the story from my perspective as well, so I'm here writing this hovering over the "delete draft" button metaphorically.

I'm 31, she's 32, we've been married 9 years and we're both plus-sized but working on fitness. We just got out of a long-term relationship with religion I guess you could say, and questioning all the constraints we had previously just considered "off limits" pushing us to be people we weren't. She's known since she was a teen she's bisexual, I'm pretty new to those types of feelings myself (last year or two) but they're exciting and not a hundred percent straight to say the least. It's exciting, yeah, but also a little scary because she's the only person I've ever had full sex with, and I've never done anything this "adventurous" in my life I guess you could say.

To explain the title: I didn't know if too many letters would be confusing so I might've gotten the "4R" format wrong but anything else I list seems to get insta-rejected because I'm doing something wrong with the title, but it's me (a cis male), her, a recently-discovered NB that accepts she/he/they equally, and we're open to finding anything from fun encounters, to FWB, to emotional connections, or one leading into the other. Could be M, F, MF, etc.

One of the topics that we're reconsidering strongly is our previously-strict monogamy. She's had a MFF threesome before, didn't have a great time for a lot of reasons, but we've spent long enough working with each other and building a consenting loving environment that it's not even a concern for her to try it with me because she says she knows it would be fun and could lead to something long-term even. I was honestly floored at how excited she's been to see me open up to a lot of this, and has been nothing short of encouraging and supportive.

I've spent so many years sheltered into the idea that if I didn't love exactly one person there was something wrong with me, but I've realized that's just a really common hangup based on my experience that before her, a lot of my relationships ended with people betraying my trust or cheating on me. So it's equally exciting and terrifying but she suggested we make accounts, set up dating apps, etc. and just see where it goes. I'm open to guys, it'd just have to be the right guy. I'd be more down for couples or women just because I have more experience physically and emotionally with women, but I'm realizing I'm not as straight as I thought I was I guess. The bigger issue for me is that I don't want to feel intimidated by an experience difference, but maybe that's something I'll get over if the right person(s) can take things slow with me. And while I'm closeted about it now, if it became more than casual encounters I 100% understand the need to not treat a new partner as some dirty secret and to be open, because they should never have to live in the shadow. I just don't want to open up until there's something long-term to open up for, and maybe that's selfish.

I could explain a lot more in the comments to avoid this rambling on, but I shouldn't forget to include fun stuff like demographics and hobbies.

Overall we're nerds, I guess you could say. We both dig video games, just generally different types. She's more into JRPGs, Genshin Impact, that kind of thing. I'm more into Rocket League, Sea of Thieves, etc. I'm 6' flat, she's 5'4", I'm thick but strong, she's curvy as the day is long. I've got the beard, she's got the boobs (and boy are they great). I dig movies and shows of most types, she digs horror films but I freak out a little too bad over them. I'm an MBA grad that works from home, she's a writer. I'm lower social energy, quieter, she's the charming extrovert. We drink socially, 420 friendly (myself especially). We both love board games. Clean and disease free, able to host or meet somewhere neutral. We have cats, we've always wanted kids but infertility kinda gets in the way and that's been a hard adventure for a long time but it's only brought us closer together. Ideally we're looking for people interested in us both, even if we build private relationships with them, not just someone for one of us. But none of these are hard and fast rules, and we're open to exploration and figuring out what we're into over time and letting whatever happens, happen, organically. We're in no rush or drive to have to do anything so if there aren't sparks that's cool, no harm no foul. Drinks, dinner, that kind of thing sounds awesome.

Thanks for not being asshats in advance.