Hey poly friends! I'm L! I'm a demisexual, 33 year old, 420 friendly, neurodivergent, mother of two, who is married and dating separately. I'm here looking for a friendship! Maybe more? (A good friendship often turns into more). But I'm not here looking for a hookup.

Both of my current relationships are with men, and while I am certainly open to getting to know another man, I'm really hoping to make a connection with a someone who identifies as a woman. Me and my partners date separately, but I would ask that you be open to a friendship with them, not just because they're awesome guys, but because they are each huge parts of my life.

My interests include DnD (this is first for a reason--I hyperfixate on it and will ask you first if you play, and then to play); online gaming (Civ, anyone? Final Fantasy?); bingeable tv dramas (but I've lately been out of touch, so I'm super behind on the times); and creative work (reading, writing, literary analysis, character development, drawing), among other things. Those nights where I can play DnD and Civ with you and the polycule will be the absolute best! But here's the thing--I love to see genuine enthusiasm in people. So, while sharing interests is nice, I'd really like to hear about what you love and why. I would honestly love to listen to you talk about your passion all day, whatever that may be.

I'm searching for someone who I can first connect with and who can help pull me out of my shell as I'm pretty introverted until I get comfortable with someone, and that level of comfort comes from time and chemistry. I love to reflect on myself and my life so that I can grow as a human, and meeting new people helps to stimulate that growth. I'm bad at keeping in touch, though. I know this about myself and make efforts to counteract it.

And now for the serious stuff...

Mental health is a big part of my life. After suffering a devastating breakdown last March, I've been diagnosed with PTSD and a handful of other conditions. I got out of a toxic relationship in November, and I'm still recovering from that. My nerves are fragile. I'm likely autistic. And I'm strongly anhedonic, so my motivation fluctuates from day to day, even if my routine doesn't. I can be somewhat mercurial, but I strive to think through emotional responses, which means I can be both impulsive and thoughtful--often a dangerous combination of both. As you might imagine from hearing this, someone who is patient, emotionally available, honest, and communicative with their partner is absolutely necessary for me.

Honest. Open. Communication. If you're looking for something secret, I'm not your lady. Openness, honesty, and communication are all things I can promise to give you as well.

There is a related (and somewhat hypocritical) hiccup with all this, however... My husband and I aren't openly poly with our family. We live in a combined household with my Boomer mom and his traditional often judgmental parents (yeah, it's as insane as it sounds); and because my other SO lives in another country, we haven't wanted to rock the boat by bringing up our nontraditional love lives. A local relationship would give us an excuse to change that (we've been waiting for the right time), so be aware of that baggage if you decide to send me a DM. Speaking of which--I am hoping for something local to Middle TN (I'm willing to travel anywhere between Nashville, Chattanooga, and Hunstville, AL on a semi-regular basis to meet up), but am open to another LDR, if it's with the right person. Either way, we'd spend quite a bit of time online getting to know each other first.

If you've made it this far and I sound like someone you would like to get to know better, DM me and we can see if chemistry is a thing between us! I use Discord as my primary method of communication, so please come prepared to chat through that platform if we hit it off <3~