Fully vaccinated as of 5/3/2021

To be honest, I’m just looking for a masculine presenting person. I don’t care about your gender identity.

The most frequent descriptor people give me is: really laid back.

The most frequent comment I get when people who know me in person give me when they talk to me for the first time: “Wow you’re not as scary as I thought you were going to be.”

Gay | Gender Neutral | They/Them | Asexual Spectrum | Polyamorous | Coffee Addict | Gamer | BDSM | Road Tripper

I think the first thing people notice about me is that I have a horrible case of Resting Bitch.. Everything. It’s not just my face; it extends to my tone of voice as well. I’ve been asked more than once if I’m mad about something, but no that’s just how I sound. I have to consciously think about presenting myself to be more personable. If I’m not trying to make a good first impression, I probably come off terribly.

Once people know me, I get the comment that I’m super laid back. I’m pretty unshakable. I don’t get flustered or stressed and rarely anything ever truly bothers me. Or if it does, you’ll probably have no idea.

I have a partner of six years and we practice kitchen table poly. We date separately, so you just get me and my lovely self. Also, I’m not looking for casual fun or friends with benefits. If you are, that’s fine, but you’re not going to find it with me. I’m looking for someone I can connect with and form a, hopefully, lasting relationship.

My favorite things in life are Dragon Age: Inquisition, Criminal Minds, crime podcasts, Hamilton, coffee, and long car rides.

My taste in music is eclectic. I can go anywhere from top 40’s to country to metal to Hamilton. My go to is going to be country, but I live in the Midwest, it’s ingrained into all of us, no? I’m always going to have a soft spot for the music that got me through my teen years: Motionless In White, Bring Me The Horizon, Asking Alexandria, D.R.U.G.S, Sleeping With Sirens, Memphis May Fire, Falling In Reverse, (old) Blessthefall. Recently I did get into the black metal band Behemoth.

I will probably never understand your movie references. I will have seen maybe 3/20 movies you ask me about. I will also not understand your TV references. Honestly I’m not much of a media consumer, in that type of way.

I am not your crunchy granola girl. I despise the outdoors. I have severe allergies to pretty much anything and everything outside. If it’s there, it will hurt me. I’m even allergic to mosquitos, okay. Please never ask me to be your hiking companion. I may do it if I like you enough, but it would definitely cause me severe distress. Camping.. I can be cool with that, though. Like in a tent and everything, I don’t need a cabin in the woods.

I am somewhere on the asexual spectrum. I wouldn’t say I’m straight up asexual, but I’m not quite greyace or demisexual either. I am a part of the BDSM community as a submissive leaning switch. Although, I do say that if I truly identify as anything in the BDSM community it’s as a sadist.

INTP and Physical Touch is my love language if you’re into that kind of thing.

Black lives do matter, but I have a very turbulent relationship with the movement for personal reasons that involve my own racial identity. If you want to talk about it, that’s cool with me. But if you write me off just because of that statement.. well that’s your loss. I also get the point of ACAB but I’m not going to shout it from the rooftops. I am not an overly political person, but I am a huge liberal.

** If all you have to say in your first message to me is “Hey, what’s up?” just don’t bother because I’m not going to respond to you. Thanks. **