Well howdy folks! How are we all doing this week? You can call me Spy, and perhaps we'll get to the nitty gritty details later on. I'm a queer AFAB polyam person (they/them) currently splitting my time between the west valley and the Biltmore/Arcadia area. I do have a bundle of children in the west valley, but have my own place outside of their home.

I am quite well experienced with non-monogamy, and my ideal relationship structure has definitely changed over time with my experiences. When I was first introduced back in 2012-2013ish I was a wee little insecure thing, and really needed the structure of hierarchy and polyfidelity to feel safe. I'm delighted to share that time (and lots of therapy haha) has led me to a much more confident position, and at this point I am exploring solo-polyam and relationship anarchy and really enjoying finding what truly works best for me.

Last November my life truly crumbled around me. I found myself homeless, jobless, in the midst of a terrible break up and child custody battle. It was the loneliest thing I can ever imagine experiencing, as I lost pretty much everything I valued all at once with almost no support in the process. It really forced me to get comfy with MYSELF for the first time in my life. I've never been great at making friends, so I had to learn how to be my own friend and that was such a foreign concept to me!

So here we are, just about 8 months later... and while some days I still grieve for what might have been, I am healing and even on my weakest days I get a little bit stronger (shout out to Sara Evans). I am really excited to dip my toes back into the water, and see what's out there! I could really use some friends for coffee/tea/mimosas/long islands (pick your poison!), game nights, or whatever. I am also totally open to a date date if that's what you're after. I really prefer to let the dynamic develop naturally, without forcing any boxes.

I am fully vaccinated, and hopefully you are too! If any of this is mildy interesting or entertaining, please reach out. Looking forward to chatting with you all. Cheers!