My wife helped me write and edit this and we've included her comments in square brackets for clarity (I hope). Posted this in a Poly r4r as well because that seemed a more obvious place to be fair.

I suppose I should clarify that slightly confusing explanation of a title. I'm interested in looking for a poly partner, but my wife is part of my life (obviously) and though she's not looking for a romantic partner I still feel she should be included as part of the entire explanation. Long term she'd be happy if I found some one she got along with well with a view to a cohabitation or kitchen table type arrangement. [I would love a 'best friend'/companion/platonic relationship, and would love a kitchen table or cohabiting scenario with my husband's stable metamour but am not looking for any sexual relationship. More like another wife!] [She says this paragraph is way too hard to read. She's also checking my editing!]

We have some poly and what I guess you'd call swinging experience, which my wife is very much aware and encouraging of. I Should probably also mention kinks in this paragraph. I'd call myself a dom and our relationship has always had an S&M flavour (I do love some rope bondage). But it doesn't have to be a feature. It just seems to end up that way.

So what am I like? Or what are we like? We like rock climbing/bouldering, trail running, geocaching, I run D&D and other pen and paper RPG's for my mates (my wife has no interest in them lol). I like to scuba dive as well when I can. We're off to Kilkim Zaibu in June!! (that should give a fair indication of me/us lol) And I'm hoping we can take our campervan out to Fontainebleau for bouldering/climbing in April. We've actually just got back from a month or so living in said campervan in Europe. [She also says, for anyone that googles Kilkim Zaibu, we're not hardcore goths.] [We are also pretty intellectual people, and love a debate on almost any subject. Anyone that can stilumate my husband's mind as well as body would be good!]

We think it's also only fair to mention that we are considering leaving the country. We're currently investiagting France as a possibility thanks to its cheaper property prices. This is a 12-18 month plan, and there will be chickens!

I realised I have one more vital detail (if you're still reading), we have a daughter! She's 4 and amazing! So not hating kids would be good. She's part of my/our life in a big way obviously. She climbs, rocks out and adventures with us a lot (we have a family ticket for Kilkim Zaibu).

Ok, so last thing. My job. It takes me away for months at a time then gives me months off. Generally when I'm away, I'm away full-time and when I'm back, I'm back full-time. I'll be heading off for 4 months in a couple of days, however I'll still have access to regular contact (although the next few days will be fairly patchy). So I suppose this is to see who is out there and might be interested, to make contact and get to know each other. I figure if we can build something that lasts 4 months at a distance then we know we have "something" and meeting up when I get back could be awesome.

Some things it was suggested I add: Physical description: dark hair, dark eyes, beard, tattoos and in shape thanks to running, climbing etc Current disposition: Cheerful despair lol.

Well if you've made it through this far feel free to drop me a line :-) oh and please message rather than the chat feature. Chat doesn't seem to work properly.