My wife helped me write and edit this and we've included her comments in square brackets for clarity (I hope). This is my third attempt at post this, new Reddit is terrible and the automod for title format is a tyrant!

I suppose I should clarify that slightly confusing explanation of a title. I'm interested in looking for a poly partner, but my wife is part of my life (obviously) and though she's not looking for a romantic partner I still feel she should be included as part of the entire explanation. Long term she'd be happy if I found some one she got along with well with a view to a cohabitation or kitchen table type arrangement.  [I would love a 'best friend'/companion/platonic relationship, and would love a kitchen table or cohabiting scenario with my husband's stable metamour but am not looking for any sexual relationship. More like another wife!] [She says this paragraph is way too hard to read. She's also checking my editing!]

We have some poly and what I guess you'd call swinging experience, which my wife is very much aware and encouraging of. I Should probably also mention kinks in this paragraph. I'd call myself a dom and our relationship has always had an S&M flavour (I do love some rope bondage). But it doesn't have to be a feature. It just seems to end up that way.

So what am I like? Or what are we like? We like rock climbing/bouldering, trail running, geocaching, I run D&D and other pen and paper RPG's for my mates (my wife has no interest in them lol). I like to scuba dive as well when I can. We're off to Kilkim Zaibu in June!! (that should give a fair indication of me/us lol) And I'm hoping we can take our campervan out to Fontainebleau for bouldering/climbing in April. We've actually just got back from a month or so living in said campervan in Europe. [She also says, for anyone that googles Kilkim Zaibu, we're not hardcore goths.] [We are also pretty intellectual people, and love a debate on almost any subject. Anyone that can stilumate my husband's mind as well as body would be good!]We think it's also only fair to mention that we are considering leaving the country. We're currently investiagting France as a possibility thanks to its cheaper property prices. This is a 12-18 month plan, and there will be chickens!

I realised I have one more vital detail (if you're still reading), we have a daughter! She's 4 and amazing! So not hating kids would be good.  She's part of my/our life in a big way obviously. She climbs, rocks out and adventures with us a lot (we have a family ticket for Kilkim Zaibu).

Ok, so last thing. My job. It takes me away for months at a time then gives me months off. Generally when I'm away, I'm away full-time and when I'm back, I'm back full-time. I'll be heading off for 4 months in a couple of days, however I'll still have access to regular contact. So I suppose this is to see who is out there and might be interested, to make contact and get to know each other. I figure if we can build something that lasts 4 months at a distance then we know we have "something" and meeting up when I get back could be awesome.

This was going to be a shared account but will be my private one instead :)