Poly woman here but ‘single’, and I’m looking for a primary partner. This is a shot in the dark, but Reddit has been good to me over the years.

I’ve been technically single the last 2 years following a nasty breakup, but during this time, I’ve pursued and become a part of polyamorous relationships. It’s natural to me, and I can’t imagine being in a serious monogamous relationship again. I’ve met wonderful people and formed some pretty spectacular friendships that will last a lifetime.

However, something is missing from my life. My partners are married or engaged, and dating other men who are ‘single’ has been challenging. I live in a conservative part of Louisiana, and I’ve had difficulties finding/matching with men who are similarly minded and can match my energy.

My approach to polyamory is ethical, intentional, communicative, and open to the natural evolution of a relationship based on chemistry and connection. I want someone in my life who is present and open to sharing the everyday nuances of life, planning trips, being part of a community, emotional support, and possibly building a future… all with the intent of remaining poly/ENM and growing together. That’s a big ask, and I know something like this takes time. I won’t rush into anything, but I also seek a relationship with the availability and potential to become more.

About me: I’m 40 but I’m constantly told I look in my 20’s. It’s quite annoying, actually. I am attractive and average weight.

I work really hard on myself, and I’ve put a lot of time and effort into my mental health the last 3 years. I have little drama in my life, and I have very little bandwidth for toxicity. Positive energy is so important to me. I have a professional job and work hard. I have one kiddo, a 14yo boy, who knows I’m poly. He’s pretty cool.

Oh, I’m neurospicy AF. I am AuDHD which is a fun combo, and I find I’m incredibly drawn to other neurodivergents. Small talk can be challenging for me, and I tend to enjoy deep conversations about life and passions. However, I also have a zest for life that includes fun, adventure, and exploration. I’m an incredibly curious person, and it often gets me into “trouble”… Oh the stories I can share… I’m also sensitive with a big heart and big emotions, and I enjoy sharing my time with others.

Camping, vacations, being outdoors, fishing, food, festivals, science, psychology/sociology, thrifting, are all things I enjoy. I also enjoy learning about other people’s passions.

About you: Well, if you’ve made it this far and feel like any of this resonated with you, I would hope you’d reach out. I’m attracted to men from 35-50. Mutual physical and sexual attraction is important. Intelligence and self awareness are a big turn on for me. I am not interested in talking to married men or men who currently have a primary/live-in partner. I have other partners, so I would expect you to as well as a polyamorous person. However, I am seeking the capacity for more in a relationship, so you would need to be in a situation that allows for more. Long distance is fine, but it would take a really spectacular connection for me to put energy into the relationship. (Hey, spectacular is awesome, so bring it).

Enough rambling from me. I’ll only respond to serious responses, so feel free to have long-winded dialogue mixed with over sharing.