Just a dude looking for friends, people that I can connect with on a personal level that could, possibly lead to more - one day.

I'm Jay and I've been married for over 20 years and only recently came out to my partner(42F) as poly. She was wonderfully supported and excepting. We're taking it slow so for now, while fully allowed to seek other relationships, we're still working through all the ground rules and comfort levels.

I know even reading this, these are giant red flags but I am in a strong, loving, and trusting relationship and my partner's trust is something I hold dear. I'm not looking for quick and dirty or someone on the sly. Funny story but I could have had that but .... (guess you'll have to pay the bridge troll to find out more).

Casual doesn't do anything for me and I need to feel an emotional connection before a physical one appeals to me. If that makes sense then a little bit about me:

- I'm short, fat and bald. But I smell nice, have a beard, and I bet I can make you laugh.

- Progressive AF : I don't mind anyone really but these days, that's where I stand. Though, I do live in a pretty red area, I get along well with my neighbors and most people I encounter throughout my day.

- Please teach me something!!! I love learning and get super excited about the most random things.

What I'm looking for:

- If I knew, I'd go looking for that specific something.

- A friend to go walking with, or show off my plants to, of trade stupid stories

- Maybe, most importantly, someone who isn't too chicken sh*t to take a chance on a stranger. But I'm sure you'll just keep scrolling.

Anyways, I'm here and for anyone reading this and thinking, "Damn, this dudes perfect, if only I didn't have this dick between my legs." You can message me too. And anyone reading this in the future, you too. I'll respond when I get a chance.