Hello! I'm a 43-year-old straight male based in the Central Valley, California. It would be great to find a local but I’m open to long-distance connections if the vibe feels right.

My current relationship is shifting due to differences in how we each approach ethical non-monogamy, but I remain committed to the principles of openness and respect. Currently, I’m going through a cordial divorce—my separation began on 8/21/2024, and I anticipate finalizing the divorce around 2/22/2025. I have one long distance partner that is serving in the military and resides out of the country. Otherwise, I have deleted all dating apps and my dating life has been fairly quiet. The additional peace has been great but I feel like there is something missing.

I enjoy meeting new people and have even adopted new families in line at Disneyland LOL. I’ve recently discovered a love for board games and started a collection—it’d be great to find someone who shares this passion, though it’s by no means a requirement. Fitness is another big part of my life; I work out five days a week and enjoy the occasional mountain biking adventure. However, it is important to note that I believe in being fit for life but not living my life for fitness. I am just as happy snuggling on the couch with the right Netflix show. And I always keep a stash of chocolate on hand for emergencies. Lifelong learning excites me—I’ve earned multiple degrees and certificates and am currently tackling Spanish. Me gusta aprender español, es muy divertida y interesante. Por favor, ayuda me.

I’m looking for a meaningful romantic connection—something more than a casual fling, but I’m in no rush to get too serious. Emotional intelligence, transparent communication, and conflict-resolution skills are qualities I deeply value in a partner. I would also like to find someone that is sex positive and is able to communicate their own sexual needs and desires. I've done a tiny bit of exploration into kinks/fetishes and discovered that I have a strong kink (borderline fetish) for pleasing my partner. Otherwise, I'm fairly vanilla, but I'm open to trying some of your "50 Shades" scenarios to keep things spicy LOL.

I have about 5 years of experience with ethical non-monogamy and would love to build a kitchen table polyamorous dynamic where all relationships know about and support one another.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you! Let’s explore the possibilities together.