34m here. In a sense been indirectly involved in a open relationship. In my experience and time with the person at the time, I lost more of my mental health, finances, and trust.
What does one gain out these relationships? Sure I got affection but it wasn't constant, nor secured. It went from 'i have your best interests in mind" to "we are incompatible" with very little effort on their side, and say they love me and immediately ghost you and block you.
Integrity is something extremely difficult to achieve, and extremely few have it. Which is why, actions prove more than words. Something that over time I should see missing, as they weren't transparent as they said they were. And even past that, I still give the benefit of the doubt. What's funny is people try to "be the best they can" without sacrifice or compromise, as if they want to have their cake and eat everyone else's.
It seems like this kind of relationship attracts those that are honest and really want to bond with someone while others just want to fit snug where they can as long they get what they want, in other words, babied with very minimal effort.
I'm genuinely looking for a good conversation, and input with stable and educated minds that see things beyond the surface. Someone that can see that it's past the materialistic, but the intent of the person and how they carry themselves in relationships.
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