Man I wish reddit had a save drafts thing, this is my 3rd time writing this where it hasn't saved.... please read whole thing.

As the title says, I'm 39 White Male, sounds so clinical. I am LF a female friend to go on Dates with. It would typically be during the weekdays with the occasional weekend. Things like coffee and a walk in the park, cooking class, orchards, breweries, and plays. I need an emotional connection before I will get physical and not every time that we hang out will or must be physical. I am more than happy to hang out with you the person rather than the orifice. (That was supposed to be funny)

If/When things get physical, I am a very giving partner. I tend to focus on my partner rather than myself. My pleasure is appreciated, but I get off on you getting off. I don't have a size preference in women, I love all types, but prefer thick girls, but that doesn't disqualify anyone. Again, Personality over Physical. I ask that you are A) Clean - both sexually and otherwise. Washes their pits and teeth! Lol you'd be surprised. B) Non-smoker - I'm allergic to chemicals in cigarettes and an epi-pen situation doesn't make for a good date. C) Between the ages of 26 and 55. Age divided by 2 plus 6 for starting age. Age divided by 2, plus your age for ceiling, thems the rules.

Ideal date after we've known each other for a while: we go out to dinner, have great conversation, and feel the vibe. We come back to mine or yours and I spend the next few hours wearing your thighs as ear muffs. (I LOVE giving oral.)

I get tested every quarter and expect the same if we aren't exclusive. I don't play without condoms.

Ok here's the other shoe, so to speak lol:

I am happily married for over 8yrs, together for 10yrs. She and I practice ENM and have been for 2yrs now. She and I play separately, she has her partners and I have mine. I only ever have one partner at a time. No particular reason just the way I do things. I just don't like to divide my attention too much. Yes, she knows that I'm on here and asking. Yes, you can ask her or meet her whenever you wish once we get to know each other better. No need to bother her if it isn't going to work out. My wife and I are emotionally monogamous, meaning that I will care for you deeply, but it shall be as a friend.

What do you get out of it? A safe and sane partner, who doesn't pressure you and respects boundaries. I am very communicative both in and out of the bedroom. Someone who can and will explore things we're both into even if I haven't tried it before, like Ethiopian food - I wanna try it, but haven't had the opportunity. Someone who texts you back when you text, someone who actually gives a shit what happens in your day. If you live close to me, then I offer the service of drive-by kisses, so that even if we can't hang out that day then at least I got to kiss you that day. (They are super fun!) I don't care about your sexual experience, if any, as I said I am very patient and willing to progress at your speed.

What if I find someone, while we are together? We can end what we have or we can continue, so long as the other person knows. I won't be a side-piece! I will respect you and expect the same. I recognize that every person offers a different type of emotional energy and that no one person can or should be expected to meet that standard. To me that's unrealistic and unfair to them.

Best case scenario - I'd like something consistent, like a least a year or more (dating is exhausting); however, I am open to shorter scenarios.

Not interested in ONS.

**Please don't post anything if you don't approve of my wife's and I choices. We aren't wrong just different than you. Peace."