Hi! I’m Emily, I’m 32 and live in the central east part of Illinois. I have quite a bit of experience with long distance relationships and as a Midwesterner, I love a good road trip, so I am open to people pretty much anywhere in the continental US. I’m open to online only if that’s how it works out, but I’m also down to travel and meet up with the right person.

I’ve been married almost 14 years and we have been nonmonogamous/poly for the majority of that time(started out ENM and then switched to poly after about a year). We date separately. I would prefer something long-term because I am someone who tends to get attached and don’t just jump from relationship to relationship. The two most important things I’m looking for though are consistency and communication. Almost everything else is negotiable.

I’m gonna do the rest of this in list form because that is the best way to do it without turning this post into a novel.

About me:

• 5’2”, BBW, long dark blond/light brown hair, blue eyes, glasses

• I love to cook a wide variety of food and feeding people is one of my favorite ways to show love

• Horror movies are my jam even though I am a big baby when it comes to gore and will often end up watching some scenes through my fingers or over the top of the blanket I’m shielding my face with

• I’m a gamer. Mostly cozy games because I use it as a way to de-stress

• I’m a big football fan. Specifically cheer for the Pittsburgh Steelers.

• Cat person, with two cats who I consider my babies. But I don’t dislike dogs either

• As far left politically as you can possibly imagine

• 420 friendly, very occasional drinker but no problem with people who drink more often

Who I’m looking for:

• A man between the ages of 30-45ish(the lower end of that range is more firm than the upper end)

• No specific physical must haves, it’s more about personality for me, but if you have facial hair you get bonus points, and you get even more if it’s well-maintained

• Not a requirement by any means but I would love to find somebody who wanted to game with me, I play a lot of cozy games that support multiplayer like Minecraft and Stardew Valley so more bonus points if you would be open to playing with me

• Someone who is not conservative politically. There are some things I will agree to disagree on, but I will never click with someone who feels that human rights are debatable

• At least somewhat kinky. I don’t have any kinks that I would consider dealbreakers if a partner wasn’t into them, but at this point I don’t think I could do “strictly vanilla” either. If you are interested in/open to DD/lg, more bonus points. Since there are limits to what I'm allowed to say here, if you would like to know more, check out my BDSMpersonals post because it goes into a bit more detail.

• Someone who has free time to commit to a relationship. Obviously I’m married and have other IRL commitments so I don’t expect 24/7 constant communication but I do want regular daily or at least every other day conversations. In the beginning this will probably be mostly text/chat because that is my comfort level but eventually I am open to phone/video calls as well

If that second list describes you and you’re interested in the first list, please DM me and tell me a bit about yourself! I’m looking forward to hearing from you!