Hello, hello and welcome to my newest and most improved personal ad! I'm feeling quite ridiculous to still be making and refining these after several years now, but I'm not sure what else to do aside from this. So, please read on to find out more about my goofy-ass self and what I'm looking for.

I'm Ari, 28 years old, demisexual, genderfluid, and polyamorous. I almost never include pictures, but f*ck it, here's one:

https://imgur.com/a/0VyXbbL

Hopefully it'll help this post catch the eye of the right person this time.

I am a recovered, medicated borderline (yay, years of therapy!) and I also manage my mental health with cannabis, so 420 friendly is a must. I am leftist and an atheist, I'm a rather skeptical person, especially these days. I'm looking for compatibility, peace, and love in a relationship and I won't settle for anything less.

Things I am looking for in a partner:

-between the ages of 24-35

-kinky. Dominant/dominant leaning switch who would like to help me structure my life. Not exactly M/s TPE, but something very structured in a gentle sort of way.

-Is introspective and communicative

-Doesn't have a primary life partner but is seeking one to marry (at least in ceremony if not legally) and have a family with

-goofy, witty, silly

-will roast me, but adore me slightly more

-is comfortable taking care of me/their family financially. I struggle to keep a 9-5 job, I'm trying to build my own very small business selling stuffed animals, but I have run into many roadblocks with that. It's not a point of pride for me to say, but it is something I feel I need to share with you up front

-will get me flowers "just because"

-gamer

-passionately, hopelessly romantic

-likes to build/make things (blue collar work is sexy, idk why)

About me:

-I am a sadomasochistic switch, but have been burnt out on taking charge for a while now. I want a dominant I can serve and will help me structure my life, I'm really into degradation and humiliation, caregivers, body worship (both ways) and more. Limits include public play and scat/similar edge play.

-I am a silly, goofy, hopeless romantic. I'll roast you back and adore you slightly more than I tease.

-an excellent kisser, by all accounts

• crafter, painter, artist, builder, sewist, miniature painter, miniature dollhouse builder, honestly anything I can do with my hands, I usually love.

-Gamer, often PvE survival especially with story-rich RPG elements or other story-rich RPGs (who else is excited about the new KC:D?!) . The Long Dark, Going Medieval, Medieval Dynasty, Kingdom Come: Deliverance, Skyrim, BG3, Sims 4, and modded minecraft are games I've either really enjoyed and/or I play often.

-I love animation, both adult and young adult cartoons (in the vein of ATLA), And I enjoy a lot of comedy shows as well. Community and The Good Place are two of my faves. I prefer fantasy over sci-fi but as long as we're cuddling, I can try to watch anything. I am pretty obsessed with Bridgerton and I am SO stoked for the new Eragon series coming up!

-I love board game nights and puzzles, I really would love to have a partner that wants to spend time doing stuff together beyond what's on a PC as well.

-I've been growing a garden (that I'm currently neglecting x.x), I've planted flowers and vegetables, both. I'd love to share that with someone, and cook things that we grew together.

-I love indie music and a bunch of other genres, but getting into specifics is annoying. Just know that I have a soft spot for nautical ballads and I collect vinyl records!

If you've made it this far, I assume you're either a very dedicated reader or interested in me. For the latter of you, feel free to reach out to me via messages or preferably reddit chat. If you really want me to consider you seriously, tell me some of your positive qualities that you think make you a good partner. I don't respond to all the messages I recieve (there are often a lot for me to sort through), I often run out of social energy quickly, and I won't rely to low-effot messages at all. So if you've messaged before and I didn't reply but you're still interested, feel free to try again.