Hello there, gentle stranger!

To Fall in Love with Me

My favourite part of falling in love, is how you get to immerse yourself in the world of another. Every human being is a universe of values, an inner realm of experience containing so much meaning and light. And when you fall for someone, you get to lose yourself in the gaze of the other --- seeing the world through their perspective, taking upon the values and meanings of your partner as your own. In that way, my relationships change the way I perceive the world, and my experience of reality becomes all the more vivid through you.

This is my conception of love. And I've realized at a young age that such love does not easily fit within the confines of a single person. That's why I'm looking for two (or perhaps three!) partners to have a polyamorous relationship together. I want us to be a dream-team power-couple (triple?) that'll fall in love together. I want to get to know the world through your perspectives, and feel my heart go a-flutter, at beauty that you can perceive.

Who am I?

I'm a 24-year-old research scientist working in the experimental sciences. By day, I delight in sparkling conversations and insightful chats, the subtle dignity of the lab along with the glamour of the conference. But above all, I cherish the world and all the experiences that it has to offer --- whether it be through art, literature, or the humanities.

I am fit, 5'10" tall, with black hair and brown eyes. I enjoy a good blazer and a collared shirt just as much as hiking boots and a sailing jacket. I suppose my overall aesthetic can be described as comfortably stylish :)

I speak four languages. Three with some fluency, but the rest with just enough skill to get into trouble! Originally from Europe, I grew up in Asia --- and spent a great deal of my youth travelling, until I landed in the U.S. for my job.

In terms of relationships, I've had a poly-relationship before, which I enjoyed immensely. We parted ways as I left the country, but it was an experience that made me realise that being poly was the way for me!

Outside of my work and my studies, I am an avid outdoorsperson. I've hiked and summited some of the highest mountains in my native country, and I hope to go on many more hikes and adventures in the U.S.! One of my dreams is to build out a van, and travel the country with the both of you, visiting trails and parklands, in a tour of the great outdoors.

Who are you?

You can be anyone. I'm not looking for someone who is similar to me, but different in ways that are uniquely yours. In particular, I fall for people who are passionate about something --- whether in the arts or the sciences. Whether you're an artist who takes pride in his portraits, or a concert musician who loves the interplay of harmony and sound, I want to hear you speak about your passion, and fall for you. In particular, I'm hoping to meet someone who is talented and skilled in an aspect of the world that is completely novel to me. After all, I want to get to know what's beautiful about our existence through your own, resplendent gaze.

And I want to be clear, I am very much imagining this as a relationship that we are all building together. So if you reach out to me, you should be open to dating and getting to know not just me, but another interesting stranger from Reddit! I believe that since we'll all be getting to know each other at the same time, the relationship can start with a sense of equality.

What do I want from our relationship?

I want us to travel together. I want our relationship to grow through coffee-dates and picnics, until our time together feels as effortless and natural as a warm embrace. I don't imagine (nor expect) for each of us to love the other in the same way. But rather, I hope the three of us will grow to cherish the unique strengths and natures of the other, until we create something that is uniquely ourselves.

And I very much intend the three of us to be a team, together. Although we might have different skills or careers, I hope that we'll be able to compliment and support each other, in our own unique ways!

Thank you very much for reaching my post, dear stranger. I hope to hear from you soon!