Ads are cool but I’m going to pass on the glitter for this one as truly not looking to deceive anyone. I have a complete and utter disregard for social norms and enjoy the company of those who can live respectfully without the need to follow a guide on relating.

That being said I’d consider myself Solo poly, as I don’t believe in marriage, have had a partner for the last 8 years and we were open prior to when we met but I live with myself and my two cats and do not plan on nesting with anyone or accepting any proposals. I’ve dated much and have a pretty good feel on my tastes and what doesn’t work for me. I’m sure like many of you, since we are here, have struggled to find people who identify as open and does not have a hierarchy.

Kids and marriage and hierarchy are not for me, unless your kids are nonhuman. I’ve had a vasectomy for over a decade and I’m unabashedly a cat daddy. I work remotely and have zero passion for my job, it pays well but I’m not passionate about it but it affords me to do things I’m passionate about.

In the words of Arcade Fire: Love is hard, sex is easy. Looking for the love part but I’m only a fool some days and am not expecting to force a feeling. I’ve been an erotic author, been part of “poly communities”, I’ve connected with others on kinks, and I have to say that part comes easy to me after I learned to disregard the negative connotations as well as societies hyper fixation on it. Informed consent is my pace and I do test when I’ve had a new partner or have concerns. So far so good there.

I’m a creature of comfort and having had a rough start in life, I tend to feed that inner child when I’m not adulting. I’m hoping to find similar, you can handle your adult stuff but also know how to relax and explore. I love to game(PS5 and like coop/story games… not into COD or sports games and been playing the Silent Hill2 Remake) and glad that it’s becoming more mainstream and acceptable. Nature is my jam and Oregon is such a good place for it, I get excited to show people my favorite spots. Love music and recently went to glass animals at the gorge. I’d like to get more into photography and art, I mean I do a lot of both but maybe should find an outlet to share it. I tend to eat vegetarian and will not judge whatever life style works for you. I’m a failed child of D.A.R.E and enjoy growing and taking mushrooms(and fascinated by non psychedelic mushrooms as well), I use thc regularly, and if the occasion calls for it MDMA can be pretty amazing.

Due to my rough start I tend to feel emotions intensely and for longer than the well adjusted person. I’ve learned how to live with it and healthily communicate but just to be open; I’ll be supportive but I have my own issues and cannot be someone’s therapist. People tend to confide a lot to me right away and trauma dump which is fine but I truly would like it if we can respect each other enough to open those cans up when we are a bit closer.

Currently recovering from chronic pain, trying to focus on my health these days both mental and physical. I’ve been informed that I’m either short or tall at 6’0(5’11 and 3/4s), I’ve got meat on my bones(was a cook in the army at one point in life) and not out of shape, just not the shape I want to be. I’m mixed race(Japanese/French), have long black hair and facial hair. Open to share sfw pics if curious.

Anyway trying this out as the apps are absolutely cancer and exploitative these days yet I’m not completely jaded in there being people out there for me. If you made it this far congrats, send me pictures of your cat and let’s exchange some music. My expectations are non-existent but my willingness to explore is untarnished.

If ya interested DM me with a little bit about yourself.