Since SoCal is actually a huge place: I live in Lake Elsinore. I'm open to women who reside in the Inland Empire and Orange County primarily. For the right partner who doesn't mind meeting in the middle, Central/North County San Diego and Central/East/SE LA isn't out of the question.

Mid-40s white male looking for a woman around my age for conversation, dating, and anything else that is of mutual interest. My approach with potential new partners is to take things slow and create a foundational friendship first. Anything past that I prefer develops organically. I find this approach sets low, but reasonable expectations, which in turn takes a lot of pressure off of everyone involved. I am married, with a mostly parallel poly dynamic, but we are open to KTP if there is interest and personalities and values line up.

I'd describe myself as an average, easygoing, father figure type. I have 4 kids, a good job, and I am overeducated for sure. I traveled extensively in my younger years and I am fortunate to have experienced other cultures. I have stories that I like to share and I really enjoy hearing the stories of others, as well. I love to learn and I have a wide-range of interests. Politically, I skew more Libertarian than anything, but I can accept that others see and experience the world differently than I do.

I am a very experiential person and I enjoy a wide variety of interests. From tech and gaming, to home repair and homesteading. I am very hands on with home and yard projects (I built a chicken palace this spring) and I like to tinker with mechanical things (one dream is to rebuild old pickup trucks). I enjoy being outside as much as the heat here in SoCal allows. I'm probably more mountains/forests than beaches, but I do like an ocean view. I love challenges and games (not mental/emotional) and I absolutely love Escape Rooms. If you really want to get me talking, ask me about birth work (as weird as that may sound).

I am neurodivergent, but that does not define me. I am a huge advocate for comprehensive health (physical, mental, and emotional). I champion normalization of mental health and I feel that I have a strong EQ. I value transparent, solid communication and clearly expressed boundaries and expectations. Other things that are very important to me are sex positivity (very kink friendly), sexual safety, and informed consent.

Physically, I am 5'8" and have a rather sturdy build. I work out 2-3 times a week and I see myself as in-shape, but still soft enough to cuddle up with. I rarely say no to pizza. I am a light drinker and non-smoker. I can't partake in 420 due to professional restrictions, but I don't mind if you're into it. (I am not a cop or law enforcement of any kind).

My interests in a partner vary. It's really about the personality and willingness to engage in conversation. Physically, I would like someone that takes care of themselves and would consider themselves average to in-shape. But also doesn't say no to pizza. Personality-wise, extroverts work well with my own extroverted personality, but any introverts that are open to regular communication are also welcome. I just really hate having to drive the conversation all the time. Other neurodivergent people would be very welcome and the higher your EQ, the better.

If you're still with me, here's a link to some pics of me to get an idea of what I look like. I am currently bearded and will likely remain so until mid December:

https://photos.app.goo.gl/rZnJ9brhK3JtuB8m9