Hello fellow redditers!

I am an AFAB (assigned female at birth) queer demisexual who's looking for companionship online. I practice solo-poly with an ethical non-monogamy approach. I also enjoy kitchen table style because of the emphasis of open communication. I'm currently unpartnered and share my living space with my cat.

I am typically drawn to feminine individuals. I'm open to many gender identities (female, trans female, enbies, gender fluid, intersex, femboys, futanari). I want to make it known that overly masculine folks and cis gender straight men probably won't mesh well with me. In online spaces, I usually present as cis female, gender fluid, non-binary, or a futanari (for folks familiar with ERP).

So... Before we get too far, I do have a PSA for any interested parties.

-> At this point, I'm only comfortable with an online long distance type of relationship. This means I'd prefer to keep things text based and I'm not comfortable sharing pictures of myself. If that doesn't work for you, I understand completely and wish you luck in your search!

Now that's out of the way, here's some info on who I am.

I am based in the US, with a the PST timezone. My pronouns are she, her, they, them. I work full time (which can be mentally draining), support myself and my aging parent, spend weekend time with friends, and try to balance family/work obligations. Geeky graphic tees, comfy pants, and rainbow converse are my go-to outfit. I consider myself to have more of a chapstick vibe because I'm not overly femme or butch. See more about this at the end of my post.

I identify as a huge geek (if that's not obvious) who's empathetic, passionate, analytical, and considerate. I run multiple TTRPGs (table top role-playing games), enjoy playing video games, binging true crime, role-playing online (platonic and erotic), BDSM, I'm slowly getting into magic the gathering, trying to get better at painting miniatures, and love being in a blanket burrito. I like being the big spoon and tend to be the more dominant one in a relationship (this includes BDSM dynamics as well, but I identify as a Switch).

Like a lot of people in the LGBTQ community, I grew up in an abusive household. As a result, I have my struggles (anxiety, PTSD, depression) but I consistently address it with therapy and have started taking medication. I'm also waiting to be assessed for ADHD (I consider myself high functioning).

I'd like to note that I am a plural system. If you don't know what that is, ask me about it. I know this can be a turn off for some folks, which is okay. I want to announce this truth because I'm working on accepting myself, but also because sometimes it influences my gender identity and sexual orientation. So, if you're interested in getting to know "all" my parts, we can explore that. If you're only interested in "just me", that's ok too, just let me know.