Sidebar: someone previously replied to my “forever alone post” and I’m going to laugh at that forever 😂

I spent this weekend going dancing and doing aloha aina work, which is a type of political and community work common in Hawaii. It usually involves building or restoring a local food system, like a lo’i (taro patch) or loko i’a (fishpond ). One of the wonderful things about Aloha Aina is that it’s a beautiful way of building the world you want to live (and eat!) in. Practically speaking, it’s inter generational group manual labor. I moved rocks, and pulled out invasive plants and planted native ones, ate, laughed, and played with with a group of sweet people ranging from 2 to late 60s. I love spending my time this way.

Other than dancing and aloha aina, I work on an ever growing rotation of crafts, immerse myself into fantasy realms, chill with my friends and family, swim, go to therapy every other week, and politically organize 🇵🇸. I’m outgoing and a bit loud (part Italian lol), love to laugh, and take my life seriously.

I’m nonbinary, queer, ADHD, and probably ace spectrum. I’m very sensual, but not very sexual. Open to kinky folks (I love the clear communication around sex) and other ace folk as long as they enjoy touch (I have had a completely non sexual romantic relationship and really enjoyed that structure).

I’m looking for an anchor partner, so only looking for folks whose relationships leave capacity to build that type of connection. My polyamory sits in the region of Kitchen Table and relationship anarchy. Poly for the last 3 years, so still relatively new. I’m not interested in married or engaged people unless they are relationship anarchists with a very clear and practiced history of relationship anarchy AND have capacity to build a stable, committed long term relationship. Im also really open to friend connections with experienced relationship anarchists.

I hope to talk to you if you think we would be a good fit 🥰