If this post is still up, I'm still open to connections and conversation <3

No sugar coating here, I'm an expert at walls of text and overcommunication - take me or leave me - too many dead end connections and honestly, wastes of my damn time.

I am a medium to high maintenance partner looking for a loyal, fun, flirty, romantic, but dedicated and committed person willing to fight for a good, consistent connection.

\I tried to include everything in this post that will hopefully avoid weirdo's and unicorn hunters, if any of this sounds of interest to you, I promise my real personality is way more fun than what is presented in this post. This post is a manifestation of my frustrations in always getting the wrong people's attention, so I'm hoping what I want is clear and gets the attention of the right people. Thanks for your attention, good reading, and may the odds be ever in your favor.**

For starters - I am a Relationship Anarchist/Non-Hierarchical and I'm very used to LDR's. I understand that it cannot always be totally non-hierarchal on either side but I'd like to be as close to that as possible. Please do not contact me if you cannot emotionally handle potentially never meeting me.

Please note that while I am RA, this post is with the intention to find someone who I would label as a partner. I am open to casual connections and blended friendships if there's enough there and a partnership isn't wanted or possible, but I am looking for someone more serious right now.

I do not *need* physical touch. If physical touch is your primary love language, I am not your person. With that, though, I would like to eventually explore being able to *eventually* visit you and have physical contact. Long distance toys, in the meantime, are an option.

My primary love languages are quality time and words of affirmation. Effort is sexy. Unprovoked effort is sexier. Neurospicy people encouraged to apply. Having special interests is pretty hot, too.

I want some level of entanglement and I want to feel equal, regardless of whether we are online LDR's or not. This does not mean 24/7 availability, it just means that I want to feel like an integrated part of your life. I want to feel like I actually have a place in your life, rather than feel like the thing you do when no one else is around.

My demisexuality is really a key thing for anyone interested in talking to me. I'm usually sex-repulsed by flirts and talks of sex if the chemistry hasn't been properly established, however charismatic individuals have been known to break me faster. I'd want to start with friendly chatter, see if we have a vibe, and go from there. I like to be aroused by the energy in the room, the breathing, the tension, rather than physical touch, though with enough time, that will change. TL;DR that means that good sexting/writing and soft language around sex are kind of important if you actually want to sustain anything with me long term.

Pleaseeee don't make me do all the engaging and small talk, I'm autistic, that kind of shit causes me stress. I don't want to feel like I have to force or beg for your attention. I like to be chased, too.

Video/voice chat are mandatory for me. It is a non-negotiable, everyone has a phone these days. I cannot do strictly text-based connections long term.

I want someone who willing to fight with me and for me, especially during the difficult times. Someone proactive and reliable, someone who can keep the majority of the plans we make, and ideally be able to overlap on some of my time zone here in Europe when I'm not in school. Someone who is emotionally intelligent enough to communicate their feelings and talk our disagreements or arguments. Who can communicate consistently, has emotional availability, and isn't scared of intense emotions or situations because apparently I can be that way sometimes. I have been told I'm an "everything all at once" partner - once I know what I want, I go for it, and I will be blunt and straight about it. Don't expect me to spend 1-3 months waiting for you to decide on me - let's be fair to each others time :P

I'd prefer to connect with someone who does NOT work away from home 9-5 EST during the week plus weekends, as that is when I am most available in my timezone.

I want a nerdy, open minded partner who plays video games (PC users only), since I don't really go outside, I'm quite introverted to strangers but I open up once someone gets to know me. Bethesda holds my wallet, but I'm currently playing Diablo, a little VR Beat Saber and occasionally DRG, while I wait for the next instalment of Elder Scrolls or Fallout to appear. I play a lot of different games tbh but survival games and strategy games are always my preference, basically anything but shooters, as that genre is a little outside my purview.

Board games and DnD/campaigns are highly encouraged mutual activities. Roleplaying has got to be the sexiest thing on the planet with the right partner. Have you got enough charisma and imagination to conquer me on the battlefield? Roll for success ;)

Other Useful Stuff:

• 35, short and plus sized, working on it (on weight loss meds and have started going to the gym) but I've been big since I was 16 so its probably not going to change much.
• In the process of going to school in Denmark and learning Danish. You can choose to engage with that or not, your call :)
• I often struggle with feeling like an alien in the world because of my autism/ADD. This often leads to struggles with loneliness and doing tasks and understanding people incorrectly. I may ask for clarification, repetition or extra validation at times. I hope to meet someone who is the same and respects that type of interaction.
• I have a nesting partner/spouse but he is also poly and we date separately - we do not do poly the same way, and there will not be friction there. I do also have a boyfriend who is also low maintenance, hence why I'm here. I'm on my own way damn much to not look ;)
• I'm not into anime, like, at all. Kinda repulsed by it, actually. I respect if you are into it but it's not going to be something I can discuss in great detail.
• I'm also not into the horror genres of games, movies or TV.
• I don't want children. Hell, I barely want pets. I like my freedom. I'm not against my partners having children, though, I just don't want my own :)
• I am a LGBTQ and trans ally. I accept all people as people and all that encompasses, including gender, sexuality, race, diagnosed mental illnesses and undiagnosed ones caused by CPTSD and trauma. I have previously dated trans individuals of either gender alignment as well as nb's and grey in-betweens and all people are hot ;)
• I'm spiritual (I don't follow any specific practice) and believe everything that happens in my life has a purpose or reason, so ofc I have crystals and sometimes want to talk about auras and metaphysical things sometimes. You don't have to be into it, too, just being open minded and not making me feel like an idiot for it is appreciated.
• I am in the same political compass position as Ghandi. Please do not come at me with extremist political views. Isn't the world hard enough already? NO TERFS, NO SWERFS, NO DISRESPECTFUL VEGANS, NO EXTREMIST VIEWS ON POLICING INDIVIDUALS. We are complex monkeys in shoes. Just let people be people, seriously why is it so hard?
• Disclaimer: Because of cultural differences and personal attraction preferences, I am not interested in dating individuals from the Middle East, Africa or Asia (including India and Pakistan).

There's a lot more to me ofc but I didn't want to post even more of a novel xD Beep boop, nice to meet you fellow human! Write me if you'd like, but please have an intro posted or in your profile - I won't respond to blank or objectifying profiles. And pleaseeee write me with intention, I won't respond to low effort messages, either. Please be willing to send a selfie (or multiple). If I like it, I'll send one back. Thank you!