Are you interested in meeting a Dominant polyamorous man?

Do you like letting go and letting someone else lead?

Have you wanted to:

• Find someone who is both poly and kinky?
• Give and receive?
• Be in the present, experiencing each moment?
• Feel empowered to say No?
• Feel safe enough to say Yes?
• But you haven't been with someone you trust, who accepts you, and with whom you can feel safe?

Until now. Until me.

Boston area - 63M 5'9" 175 lbs - Vaccinated 6x - Recent STD tests: all negative

I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. I'm not a recovering drinker, smoker, nor drug user, I just never cared for them, nor to be around people who are drunk or high. I'm open to a considerate smoker, and someone who may enjoy a drink but doesn't need it to be social or intimate.

I'm quite happy with my life as it is. I'm open to meeting someone new if it works.

I started choosing to have ethically open relationships about 25 years ago. Being inclined to see more than one person at the same time is just part of who I am. I try to be as clear about this as I can early on, since integrity is a core value for me. I'm open to as much disclosure as each partner and I are comfortable negotiating

I take a "non-hierarchical" approach, i.e., speaking for myself, I don't treat any partner as "primary," "secondary," etc., which is probably a by-product of my not being married and living alone. If you have a different approach, that's fine.

We'll also probably have to discuss the terminology, since I've found that "polyamory," ENM (ethical non-monogamy), and CNM (consensual non-monogamy) often mean somewhat different things to different people.

I offer:

• strength
• experience
• empathy
• respect
• compersion, e.g., I'm also happy when your other partners treat you well
• good sense of humor
• patience
• acceptance
• fairness and compassion
• growth
• a safe, healing space
• slow sensuality, warm aftercare
• the ability to make grammatically coordinated lists

I am:

• quietly enthusiastic, excited about life
• playful
• open to new ideas
• always learning, always curious, especially about you
• self-aware
• good listener, most of the time
• supportive
• comfortable with silence, just being present, especially with you
• imperfect

I can:

• teach you about me, learn about you
• take responsibility for my mistakes and flaws, sometimes even learn from them
• be spontaneous, in a planned and careful way
• share my feelings, quietly listen to yours
• be kinky when it works for both of us, details to be discussed, never required

I have:

• room in my life for another if we're a good match
• good self-esteem
• healthy boundaries, respect for your boundaries
• the ability to really see you, if you feel safe enough to show me
• open relationships, honestly disclosed to whatever level of detail we're both comfortable with

I will treat you well. I embrace both careful consent and well-timed risk-taking. I'm told that I've got sparkling brown eyes and a warm, accepting smile.

I'm a gentleman with old-school manners, until you ask me not to be.

I'm looking for a woman who:

• reads posts with interest
• finds my description appealing
• loves to share food in a restaurant or on our own
• insists on being treated well, stands up for herself
• wants to explore her sensual submissive side, or explore it further
• enjoys flavors beyond vanilla

Someone who is:

• kind
• smart and capable by day, sometimes wants someone else to take the lead when she doesn't have to be in charge
• articulate
• affectionate, loves to touch and be touched
• curious, wants to learn more
• open-minded

Someone who can:

• ask questions
• teach me about you, what you like and need
• learn about me
• laugh about dualities and contradictions, debate how to unpack and accept them, possibly even change them

The following are not important to me, I have no expectations or requirements about your level of interest:

• travel
• sports

Note that I don't require that you are 100% compatible with every item listed above. I hope that, like me, you aspire to do your best most of the time.

I'm in no hurry.

Let's talk. After some messaging, if we both feel comfortable we can then meet in person over coffee or ice cream, with no pressure, no agenda except to talk more and see how it feels being together.

Let's begin! Shall I lead?