Who am I looking for? The light of my life. My lover, my submissive, my muse, the reason my world goes around, my primary partner. I'm looking for the woman I feel and smell next to me every morning, even before I open my eyes and smile to myself. The woman in whose eyes I see love for me, and the conviction to be happy and bring me happiness. Someone as comfortable being queen/princess(choose your title of choice) of my life as she is being my submissive. Someone who allows me to earn their submission, someone strong enough to helm the ship when the captain is down, so to speak.

Who am I? I'm male, 35. Dominant and polyamorous.

What gets you bonus points? (If you match even one, I probably really really really like you)

Be a bookworm. Be someone I can read my favorite books with/to (I do voices) or read your favorite to me. Be someone who is looking for their polyamorous primary partner. Someone who will develop a relationship with people who I love and (maybe) come to love them too.

What's my stand on mental health?

This is important. I used to eagerly court the idea of death when I was 16. Since then, I've learnt to appreciate every day I'm alive. I've fought with depression and won. Probably not the last time, but I'll keep winning. Bottomline: your mental health is important to me. It's hard to survive the world without trauma. Toh needn't hide your mental scars. We'll help each other fight our demons. The fight is easier with chosen family to have your back.

So, Do you have to be polyamorous?

Not necessarily. As long as you are okay with me being so. Yes, I'm looking for someone who wants me to be their primary partner. I want my home to be built around us. I want to be the one you wake up next to. But yes, by all means, if another person loves you, brings you happiness and respects your relationship with mebat the same time, be my guest! On the other hand, if you feel content being with just one partner, that's your decision. I respect it.

Too Kinky? Not possible. I'm filthy, perverted, depraved even. Bring on your deep dark secrets and we'll see if we can make each other's fantasies come to life.

Too vanilla? Nah. That's the beauty of poly. You don't need to fit the cookie cutter Santa Claus shape I dreamt up all by myself. You can be Santa's beard while someone else gets to be his hat. All together, Santa comes home and we have a lovely holiday. Everyone connects differently. I just want to be connected to you in enough ways that I ache for your presence next to me every minute of my life.

What kind of a person am I? What kind of things make me tick?

Saying I'm a bookworm would be an insult. Book dragon is more like it. I am an amateur Salsa dancer. I WILL want to dance with you when the mood strikes. You're welcome to tread on my toes as much as you want, just let me hold you in my arms and sway with you to sweet sweet music. I'm nitpicky about commitments, no matter how small. If I commit to doing something, I'll do it no matter how distasteful. Casually ignoring small commitments bother me a lot. I don't do racism, bigotry...you get the idea. Nope, No can do. If you'd be bothered by the presence of PoC or LGBTQ folks in the family we build , I'm not the person for you. I have a Masters in how to save the planet.

If you haven't run off already, then you probably have the patience I'm looking for in a partner. Let's begin a conversation and see if we fit. I look forward to hearing from you. I'd appreciate the you returning in kind, the effort I put into composing this message.