Hi all.

I will make an effort to keep this simple and easy to digest.

Who am I?

I've been married for 18 years of being together with my wife for 20. I have had 1 partner historically and that ended while I figured out my shit. That was about a year ago. I go into things with the best of intentions and in most cases, well executed. That said, I own my mistakes, I forgive, and I do my best to understand. Change is inevitable and we can either bend with it, or be inflexible and break. Forever Gumby.

I am politically moderate, I am not keen on either extreme. I don't like political discussions. I will listen, but my participation will be very limited.

I am an introvert. I prefer to interact with smaller groups, preferably 1 on 1. Large concerts and gatherings are not my jam, but I will make the best of it and find ways to have a good time.

I am intentional. This means if I'm telling you something, it's because I want you to hear it. I am 47 so the games of my youth no longer apply. If I'm tired, I'll tell you. Frustrated? You'll hear about it. If we have a problem, my goal is to identify it, communicate it, and resolve it so we both can move on.

I am a father of 2 teenagers. I can't say it here, but if you're a fan of Ted Lasso, so don't be surprised if my personality line up with that of Roy Kent.

I like a bunch of stuff, I don't like other stuff. If I were to pick one thing I'd be looking for in a partner, it would be someone who enjoys golf. It is the one thing I wish my wife would do with me, but she has neither the interest or patience to learn (not that I'm great at it myself.) I could list it all out here, but I'm tired of putting out my personal resume only to have it not read. My DM's are open, so we can chat there if my basic personality seems of interest.

What am I looking for?

Cis Woman, age range within about 10 years of my age but not limited to. I'm not looking to bring you into my existing relationship but anticipate some level of interaction at some point so you become familiar with not just me, but my life and those involved. I am flexible to what makes you comfortable. What matters to me is if we connect on the following levels:

Intellectual: You don't need a college degree but at least have the capacity to carry a conversation and not get defensive. Be ok to make mistakes, be ok to learn from them. Learn, grow, adapt and evolve.

Emotional: Empathy is big for me, but not being overly sympathetic. Care deeply, but don't care too much.

Physical: I'm not exactly winning any Olympic medals here and I'm not expecting you to either. Moderately active would be great. See aforementioned comment about golf.

Communication & Flexibility: I'm a husband and father and more than likely you're a wife and mother. Lives get busy. Be a good communicator and try to be flexible and you will get the same from me. If you're anything like me, at this junction in our lives, we are busy and even busier with the more kids involved.

That ended up being way more than I anticipated writing, but hopefully that gives a bit of a breakdown of who I am, what I'm looking for in a partner.

To close this out, provided you're still reading:

I am not perfect. I do not expect you to be either. Perfectionism is unobtainable. But I have been able to work with another person for 20 years and likely many more. The amount of battles we have fought, both together and with each other, has only built what I would consider the foundation for a pretty stellar human being. That said, I am not done growing, learning, or looking for more and better ways to enhance my life. I would prefer to allow someone the opportunity to be part of that. Let me know if you're interested. DM's are always open and I will reply.

Thanks.