Like most everyone here, I’m looking for something semi-untraditional. I do like clearly defined gender roles and expectations, however.

I’m a successful electrical engineer that does semi-dangerous work. Sometimes my work takes me away for months at a time to places overseas. Not an ideal situation, but I make in the top 5% of earners in the U.S. so, it’s a trade off.

I figure I’ll be doing this for another 2 maybe 3 years and then take something that likely pays less but ideally would be working from home.

I’ve failed a lot in life. I wanted to be special forces in the army, failed and became a bomb squad team leader instead. When I got out, I tried to become a veterinarian. Failed that at organic chemistry and switched over to electrical engineering. I started two businesses, the first one failed due to covid and the second failed after running for about three years. But, those failures are ultimately what led me to the position I am in today. I might try starting a third business again in the future, but at this point, I’m fairly comfortable and would rather be a present father figure that helps raise his kids than be gone all the time.

What I can provide:

1 - A stable and secure life. After we have kids, you don’t have to work, but I would recommend something part time, working from home just to have a resume and work experience. In case “anything” ever happens to me/us. An emergency back up plan, basically. What you do with that money, would be entirely up to you. Save it, spend it on “stuff”, whatever.

2 - I take care of myself. Keep in shape, keep my homes clean (although I have considered hiring a maid) and I’m a better cook than most people I know.

3 - I enjoy mentoring and caring for my partner. I do expect to be taken care of as well, but if you’re not doing well, I can pick up the slack for a while.

4 - Respect. I can am firm but I am fair. I believe everyone should be treated with respect until they give you a reason not to. And if I believe you don’t deserve it, then there’s no point in being together.

5 - Little to no drama. I don’t have kids, I don’t have crazy ex’s chasing me around. No financial issues. Been through plenty of therapy for the issues I’ve had in the past. I’m a generally well adjusted and competent man, that is emotionally available. I’m not saying I’m perfect, but I take pride in what I’ve made of myself.

What I want that is non-negotiable:

1 - I want kids. Self explanatory for the most part. I don’t know how many, ideally 2 (a boy and a girl) but sometimes I want 400. So, maybe 4. The number above 2 is negotiable. I’m not even against having multiple partners for more kids.

2 - I like sex. Self explanatory I think, but if you don’t ENJOY sucking dick, I’m not interested. If you don’t give me sex, I will find someone who does. I do very much reciprocate what I receive.

3 - I want peace at home. I deal with negotiations, engineers, and dangerous stuff at work many hours a week. Sometimes, in dangerous parts of the world for weeks or months at a time. I don’t want to come home and deal with arguments or chaos at home. I would rather be single if that’s the case.

4 - I want a woman who keeps herself in shape. I work out. I keep in shape. I expect the same from my partner. Yes, I’m aware babies make you fat, for a while. My woman is a reflection of me and I absolutely refuse to be with a woman who lets herself become obese.

5 - Respect. I will give you respect and I expect respect. If you want to act out, do it outside of my house with someone else. The front door locks and unlocks from the inside.

Everything else, is “whatever”, is very much negotiable. It would be nice if you cook too, but at some point in the future I might hire a full time cook as well. I like to go out and “do things”, most everyone does. But sometimes I also just want to be left alone because I want to decompress from “everything”.

I have always said, “love has always been conditional, from all sides.”

If any party in a relationship does not get the things they desire, they will eventually find those things in someone else. If you want something long term with anyone, it requires work, it requires effort, negotiations and compromise. Clear Communication and realistic expectations are a huge thing.

I know some of you might be wondering about kinks. I’m not some porn star but I do enjoy CNC, sleep play, bondage and domination to list out the obvious ones. I hate the term “alpha” but I am a dominant figure in my relationships and most of the people I work with tend to be that kind of persona due to our line(s) of work.

Religion wise, I believe there is “something” out there but it’s just easiest to say I am Agnostic. I do like the ideals many religions have. I just don’t think any specific single religion of the over 5-thousand that exist are a hundred percent correct. I have zero issues with you being more religious, but do not expect me to convert or go to church with you each week.

I won’t put any pictures on the internet but have no problem sharing them in chat.

If “all of this” interests you, let’s chat.