I've spent a lot of time over the last few years being busy, and putting my head down, and generally Handling Stuff for everyone but me. But I'm turning 35 in a couple of weeks and have decided that it's time to try spending a little time at the top of Maslow's pyramid. Maybe you could join me?

As someone who has never not second-guessed a single decision I've made in my life, I bring the whole package of shades of grey: I'm genderqueer and raised male, pan, poly for 6 years (and married for 10!), and a switch. But on the plus side, navigating all of that uncertainty means I'm very good at paying attention and receiving feedback!

My physical form has been described in such various terms as "yep, you are definitely 183 cm tall if you don't slouch", "omg you're so fuzzy," "those wisdom teeth might have to come out eventually," and my personal favorite, "!!!!". I am still getting used to the idea that I'm allowed to joyfully accessorize and don't have to minimize and blend in, so expect a dadcore aesthetic with tentative pops of color.

Ideally, I'd really enjoy having another person in my life with whom I can have a relationship that includes some kink and plenty of fantastic sex. I'm not especially fussy about what bits you have, as long as you are hygienic and regularly get sti screens, though I tend to be much pickier about masc folks. I am fussy about your location, though: as nice as online interactions can be, I am not interested in folks who are not in Allegheny County on a regular basis!

I'm most interested in meeting up with someone for an Activity (walk, movie, foraging, jam session, dumpster dive, etc) to see if we get along and proceed from there. Extra mega bonus points will be awarded to snappy conversationalists, winsome smilers, and exuberant info dumpers!