I guess slightly different for a R4R. I donāt like TLDR so let me say the BLUF (bottom line up front): married couple new to ENM looking for a local experienced couple to go out on double dates, become friends, become our mentors; and/or an experienced ENM Woman to befriend and mentor my wife.
My wife (40F) and I (38M) are new to ENM. As you can imagine weāve had our friction points and have both made mistakes. Weāve done an incredible amount of reading, listening to podcasts, talking and writing notes to each other, journalingā¦ Iāve spent hours upon hours here on Reddit reading up and soaking in the advice for new couples. We have found a polyamorous therapist local to the area. But what we seem to be missing that would be most beneficial at this moment is friends in the lifestyle. Because we are both professionals weāve chosen for the time being to keep our open marriage discreet. This has caused friction because my wife has no one to turn to when things get hard other than me, and if I am the reason things get hard (which happens) she has no one except her partner which can make things very awkward for everyone involved and I hold a boundary against being marital issues to outside relationshipsā¦ Iām a āsave it for therapyā type.
This isnāt exclusive to her, but for the time being we have a mono/poly situation so she is dealing with so many more complex emotions than mine. So I am shooting up a white star cluster to the great women of this world. Lighting the bat signal! We would love to meet experienced folks, real down to earth locals that have some years behind them, have been there done that. A couple would be preferred; letās do some double dates, we are fun. Letās become friends! Or if there is an experienced woman that likes to build new relationships and wants to take someone under her tutelage please reach out to us. We would love to meet!
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