Every time I post a new intro, I get pickier and more traumatized. 😅 I understand that I am a high needs partner - now you know it, too. Take me or leave me. Read this post *thoroughly* if you're interested, and please respect my time and yours.

I am a Relationship Anarchist/Anti-Hierarchy. I understand that it cannot always be totally non-hierarchal but I'd like to be as close to that as possible.

My ideal structure is a Vee. Kind of hoping I meet someone else whose ideal structure is also a Vee, but it's not a requirement so long as you have the bandwidth to handle me.

I'm also not looking to be an exclusively weekday partner being used as a work free-time filler. I want a real partner, not just someone who fits me in around their other partners.

I'd be looking for something which would be 95% online, so daily communication is a requirement. I'm looking for someone who can maintain daily to weekly communication over text as well as occasionally over voice/video. I really do love connecting over voice chat and with voice notes, it's my preferred way to communicate. I want someone who knows how to talk but can also enjoy mutually existing. This does not mean 24/7 availability, it just means that I want to feel like an integrated part of your life. I want to feel like I actually have a place in your life, rather than feel like the thing you do when no one else is around.

I want someone who willing to fight with me and for me, especially during the difficult times. Who can communicate consistently, has emotional availability, and isn't scared of intense emotions or situations because apparently I can be that way sometimes. Someone who is emotionally intelligent enough to communicate their feelings and talk our disagreements or arguments. Someone proactive and reliable, someone who can keep the majority of the plans we make, and ideally be able to overlap on some of my time zone here in Europe. Seems like I'm asking for the world these days.

I want a nerdy, open minded partner who plays video games (PC users only), since I don't really go outside, I'm quite introverted to strangers but I open up once someone gets to know me. Bethesda holds my wallet, but I'm currently playing SWTOR, OSRS, a little VR and occasionally DRG, while I wait for the next instalment of Elder Scrolls or Fallout to appear. I play a lot of different games, basically anything but shooters, as that genre is a little outside my purview.

Board games and DnD/campaigns are highly encouraged mutual activities. Roleplaying has got to be the sexiest thing on the planet with the right partner. Have you got enough charisma and imagination to conquer me on the battlefield? Roll for success ;)

Demisexuality & Sapiosexuality is really a key thing for anyone interested in talking to me. I'm usually sex-repulsed by flirts and talks of sex if the chemistry hasn't been properly established, however charismatic individuals have been known to break me faster. Therefore, I'd want to start with friendly chatter, see if we have a vibe, and go from there. I like to be aroused by the energy in the room, the breathing, the tension, rather than physical touch, though with enough time, that will change.

My primary love languages are quality time and words of affirmation. Neurospicy people encouraged to apply. Having special interests is pretty sexy, too.

I do not *need* physical touch. If physical touch is your primary love language, I am not your person. With that, though, I would eventually want to be able to visit you and have physical contact.

Pleaseeee don't make me do all the engaging and small talk, I'm autistic, that kind of shit causes me stress.

I'd prefer to connect with someone who does NOT work away from home 9-5 EST during the week, as that is when I am most available in your timezone.

Other Useful Stuff:

• 35, short and plus sized, working on it but it's not likely to change much.
• I often struggle with feeling like an alien in the world because of my autism. This often leads to struggles with loneliness and doing tasks and understanding people incorrectly. I may ask for clarification or need validation at times. I hope to meet someone who is the same and respects that type of interaction.
• I'm in a mono/poly nesting relationship with my husband and that will not be changing. Our relationship is very healthy and supportive of each other's choices in life.
• I'm not into anime, like, at all. Mostly repulsed by it, actually. I respect if you are but it's not going to be something I can discuss in great detail.
• I'm also not into the horror genres of games, movies or TV.
• I don't want children. Hell, I barely want pets. I like my freedom. I'm not against my partners having children, though, I just don't want my own :)
• I am a LGBTQ and trans ally. I accept all people as people and all that encompasses, including gender, sexuality, race, diagnosed mental illnesses and undiagnosed ones caused by CPTSD and trauma. I have previously dated trans individuals of either gender alignment as well as nb's and grey in-betweens and all people are hot ;)
• I'm spiritual (I don't follow any specific practice) and believe everything that happens in my life has a purpose or reason, so ofc I have crystals and want to talk about auras and metaphysical things sometimes. You don't have to be into it, too, just being open minded and not making me feel like an idiot for it is appreciated.
• I am in the same political compass position as Ghandi. Please do not come at me with extremist political views. Isn't the world hard enough already? NO TERFS, NO SWERFS, NO DISRESPECTFUL VEGANS, NO EXTREMIST VIEWS ON POLICING INDIVIDUALS. Just let people be people, seriously why is it so hard?
• Disclaimer: Because of cultural differences and personal attraction preferences, I am not interested in dating individuals from the Middle East, Africa or Asia (including India and Pakistan).

Anyways, that's me. If you made it this far, you really should consider writing me. Beep boop, nice to meet you fellow human! Write me if you'd like, please have an intro posted or in your profile. Please be willing to send a selfie as well if we connect. Thank you!