Gender: Female leaning NB, pronouns are she/they
Sexuality: Some combination of Demi/Pan/Sapio/Spiritually Attracted, can be sexually attracted initially but rare.
Personality: INFJ-T
Unique Characteristics: AuDHD with Migraines. my brain doesn't know how to brain well.
Location: Europe/Scandinavia (GMT 1), however NA timezones are usually no issue for me to adapt to.

Disclaimer: Because of cultural differences and personal attraction preferences, I am not interested in dating individuals from the Middle East, Africa or Asia.

I'll dive right in here because why not :P

Demisexuality is really a key thing for anyone interested in talking to me. I'm usually sex-repulsed by flirts and talks of sex if the chemistry hasn't been properly established, however charismatic individuals have been known to break me faster. Therefore, I'd want to start with friendly chatter, see if we have a vibe, and go from there. I like to be aroused by the energy in the room, the breathing, the tension, rather than physical touch, though with enough time, that will change.

My primary love languages are quality time and words of affirmation. Neurospicy people encouraged to apply. Having special interests is pretty sexy, too.

I do not *need* physical touch. If physical touch is your primary love language, I am not your person.

Pleaseeee don't make me do all the engaging and small talk, I'm autistic, that kind of shit causes me stress.

Realistically, I want someone who can communicate consistently, has emotional availability and who willing to fight with me and for me, especially during the difficult times. Someone who is emotionally intelligent enough to communicate their feelings and talk our disagreements or arguments. Someone proactive and reliable, someone who can keep the majority of the plans we make, and ideally be able to overlap on some of my timezone here in Europe. Seems like I'm asking for the world these days.

I'd be looking for something long term which would be 95% online. Looking for someone who can maintain daily to weekly communication over text as well as occasionally over voice/video. This does not mean 24/7 availability, it just means that I want to feel like an integrated part of your life. I want to feel like I actually have a place in your life, rather than feel like the thing you do when no one else is around.

I want a partner who plays and is willing to play video games (PC users ideally, I don't use consoles), since I don't really go outside, I'm quite introverted to strangers but I open up once someone gets to know me. Bethesda holds my wallet, currently playing SWTOR, OSRS, a little VR and occasionally Tabletop Simulator or DRG.

Board games and DnD highly encouraged. Roleplaying has got to be the sexiest thing on the planet with the right partner. Have you got enough charisma and imagination to conquer me on the battlefield? Roll for success ;)

I'm spiritual (I don't follow any specific practice) and believe everything that happens in my life has a purpose or reason, so ofc I have crystals and want to talk about auras and metaphysical things sometimes. You don't have to be into it, too, just being open minded and not making me feel like an idiot for it is appreciated.

Other Useful Stuff:

• 35, short and plus sized, working on it but it's not likely to change much.
• I often struggle with feeling like an alien in the world because of my autism. This often leads to struggles with loneliness and doing tasks and understanding people incorrectly. I may ask for clarification or need validation at times. I hope to meet someone who is the same and respects that type of interaction.
• I'm in a mono/poly nesting relationship with my husband and that will not be changing. Our relationship is very healthy and supportive of each other's choices in life.
• I've been poly on and off throughout my life, but I have been open in my marriage for the past 3 years.
• I'm not into anime, like, at all. Mostly repulsed by it, actually. I respect if you are but it's not going to be something I can discuss in great detail.
• I don't want children. Hell, I barely want pets. I like my freedom. I'm not against my partners having children, though, I just don't want my own :)
• Love talking about spirituality, culture, art and social sciences, other topics very welcome, in depth :)
• I am a LGBTQ and trans ally. I accept all people as people and all that encompasses, including gender, sexuality, race, diagnosed mental illnesses and undiagnosed ones caused by CPTSD and trauma. I have previously dated trans individuals of either gender alignment as well as nb's and grey in-betweens and all people are hot ;)
• I am in the same political compass position as Ghandi. Please do not come at me with extremist political views. Isn't the world hard enough already? NO TERFS, NO SWERFS, NO DISRESPECTFUL VEGANS, NO EXTREMIST VIEWS ON POLICING INDIVIDUALS. Just let people be people, seriously why is it so hard?

Anyways, that's me. Beep boop, nice to meet you fellow human! Write me if you'd like, please have an intro posted or in your profile. Thank you!