I'm a single, polyamorous 39F and live outside Baton Rouge, Louisiana. I've been single (primary partner) for over a year, and I am ready to start exploring the possibility of finding a more permanent partner or partners. I'm open to many different dynamics, including a triad or otherwise, but I am most interested in seeking a primary partner who is also polyamorous. One of my most fulfilling relationships has been a long-distance relationship I found right here in this same Reddit forum two years ago. We are best friends but only visit twice a year due to the distance (Alaska to Louisiana). I am hopeful Reddit can do it for me again.

It takes me hours to write an ‘about me’ summary, but I always end up overthinking what I wrote and deleting it. I overshare and then cringe at the fact that I overshare. I’m somehow shy, even though I can be extroverted. Sometimes, I can’t pronounce words I’ve only ever read. My humor is dry, but I’m quirky and silly AF. I can be intense yet very playful, funny, and charming. I'm neurospicy and complicated as an AuDHD woman, and I get along well with other neurodivergents. I love deep and intelligent conversations as much as I like my quiet time.

I have a big heart and love hard. I have worked to develop a healthy attachment style and expect to find someone who also shares a healthy attachment style.

I love to cook and enjoy quiet evenings at home. I also enjoy excitement and adventure. One flex I can claim is my ability to set up a campsite alone, although it is too hot most of the year to camp in Louisiana. I am comfortable around nudists and have a favorite spot to hang out in the French Quarter in New Orleans. I live in the country, but one day, I want to live in a city with parks, sidewalks, and hopefully even mountains in the background. In fact, I want to move out of my small town in Louisiana within the next couple of years. My job is in employee benefits/insurance/human resources, and my career is in demand. However, I was accepted in school for my MSM and am heavily considering going back to college to become an LCSW. I'm passionate about mental health and self-improvement and have considered a career change.

I love live music and have an eclectic taste, including loving bands like Rainbow Kitten Surprise, The Beaches, Matt Maeson, Mt. Joy, and The Revivalists.

I'm very pretty and have a youthful face for a 39-year-old who will be 40 later this year. I've lost a lot of weight and am pretty average, but I don't like to make a big deal about losing weight. I mention it because you can tell from my body that I've lost weight. I'm confident in my skin and hope to be with someone who is also confident and comfortable. We don't have to meet societal standards to be confident or beautiful.

The type of person or people I want are kind and welcoming to all walks of life without unfair judgment. We are all growing and learning, and I hope whoever I let in my life is trying to be the best version of themselves. Being self-aware is sexy, especially positive self-awareness.

My sexuality tends to lean heterosexual, but I have had bisexual relationships with women and couples of various ages. What can I say? I enjoy group sex and threesomes, but dating couples can be challenging! I am comfortable with my sexuality and am open to those of various sexualities themselves.

I have two cats and one 13-yo boy. He's my most important person and pretty damn cool, if I say so myself. We're both tired of this town and want to move.

I have the world at my fingertips, and life is my oyster - will you be my pearl? (*insert eye-roll for corniness*)

Please say hello and start a conversation if this resonates with you.