I’ve posted various stuff across different subreddits.

I currently live in Whittier. I moved back in with my parents after living apart for 8 years. I didn’t grow up in the area, I grew up in the north of LA so I don’t have a ton of friends here near the OC area and south of the city. As a result it often lonely and weekends and evenings can be incredibly lonely.

My partner also left me after a year of long-distance. I feel incredibly guilty that I left her in Tucson without me. I begged to move in with me, but I understand that living with me and my parents can be difficult for her.

One day she called me to say she’s having difficulty seeing a future with me. She then ghosted me for a month before calling me tk say it’s over.

I’m not mad at her, but I am heartbroken.

She has been my only partner so far. I lost my virginity to her and had my first kiss with her.

I don’t know what the next step is 100%.

I recently took the civil service exam and will probably move to another county for work as either a civil servant or a park ranger. (I currently build trails and do conservation work for the state)

I want to move to a place where I can finally be my own person.

But I also want a friend and lover by my side. I don’t think I am fully ready for a 100% committed romantic relationship yet, but I do want someone kind to talk and hang with. But also hopefully to have physical intimacy with too, including sex and cuddling.

I don’t know too much about polyamory, but I feel someone who is poly or open to poly can be patient with me and so me grow. Like a friends to lovers and back to friends?

I must emphasize that I am clean and vaccinated.

I’m also relatively fit.

I’m also a big fan of gardening, hiking, camping and I want to do and learn more outdoorsy things.

I also love books, museums, comics, and nerd stuff (Harry Potter, fantasy, sci-fi).

Perhaps if you’re in the area, we can meet over coffee and talk about books and work gossip and schedule a hangout at a garden or a hiking/campaign trip? We can also call if you’re further away.

Just let me know if anyone is interested?

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