My wife (Jay 25F) and I (Bee 23F) are in agreement that if we want our own kids, we need a third committed partner/ parent to start a family with. Maybe that’s you?

This post is primarily for me, Bee, to find a romantic and sexual partner (as I would be the one carrying any kids we have). Relationship with Jay is whatever ends up working for y’all: friends, coparents/metamours, queerplatonic partners, or romantic partners. Neither of us is looking for a closed triad; additional relationships are always welcome. But the end goal is KTP and us all living together, as logistically that would work better with kids.

So! Once again, I’m Bee. INFJ 9w8 Hufflepuff. I consider myself bi/queer and “cis enough to not care”.

I enjoy reading, writing, ttrpgs, and dabbling in a variety of artistic and creative endeavors. I also like gardening, traveling, hiking, and trying new things. I studied psychology in college, and I want to go back to graduate school in a few years to become a licensed mental heath therapist. Yes, I can and will psychoanalyze you, and then love you with better understanding of who you are. Between me and Jay, I’m the chef (read: cannot follow a recipe) and I make a mean stirfry. I am autistic and multiple other flavors of neurospicy; I am also kink-friendly and kink-informed. I have been told by my friends that I am not really “sweet” but that I am the “most genuinely kind” person they know.

That’s all I can think of for my introduction! I’m not going to introduce Jay here any further than I already have, since I’ll be the one talking to you, and I think it’d be better if you get to know them yourself down the line.

“This sounds too good to be true!” you say, reading about how awesome I am. Well, that’s because I haven’t got to the warning labels yet.

Warning labels:
- The Traumas™: both Jay and I have both been in and out of therapy for years, and neither of us dwells in this label, but it is a very present background in day to day functioning. - Dietary restrictions: I am gluten free & dairy free, and my wife has several dietary restrictions. - Pet allergies run in the family: Jay and I adopted a black poodle because hypoallergenic, but sadly cannot have cats. - Still working on finances: we do both have car loans we’re paying off; goal is to have them done with by December 2025. - Not into video games; wouldn’t mind if you were though! - Not into horror: Absolutely Not and honestly I don’t even want it in my house.

“Why didn’t you include being married in the warning labels?” I’m not sure how much it is a warning label when we didn’t get married for the traditional monogamous reasons. There are multiple legal, financial, and social benefits to being married, and we wanted to have those. Also, getting married resulted in only having one set of in-laws between the two of us! Got the trash to take itself out!

“What’re you looking for in the father of your future kids?” Prefer someone 22-32. Bonus points if you are also neurospicy and/or any flavor of queer. Please be willing to swap photos very early on; the show Love is Blind works off of disproving its own title. Open to relocating to you, you relocating to us, or all of us relocating somewhere else. Maybe include which of those three options you’re open to when you DM me?