Hey there! My name is Joss, I’m 31, and I’m located in Ohio.

Non-binary, panromantic, greyasexual. They/them, but at work: she/her. I identify as gender neutral, personally, if that even matters. (It doesn’t, gender is a social construct).

To be honest, I prefer masculine presenting people. However, if you are not that, don’t let that stop you from talking to me! I don’t care about your gender identity.

The most frequent descriptor people give me is: really laid back.

The most frequent comment I get when people who know me in person give me when they talk to me for the first time: “Wow you’re not as scary as I thought you were going to be.”

I think the first thing people notice about me is that I have a horrible case of Resting Bitch.. Everything. It’s not just my face; it extends to my tone of voice as well. I’ve been asked more than once if I’m mad about something, but no that’s just how I sound. I have to consciously think about presenting myself to be more personable. If I’m not trying to make a good first impression, I probably come off terribly.

Once people know me, I get the comment that I’m super laid back. I’m pretty unshakable. I don’t get flustered or stressed and rarely anything ever truly bothers me. Or if it does, you’ll probably have no idea.

I have a partner of eight years and we practice kitchen table poly. We date separately, so you just get me and my lovely self. Also, I’m not looking for casual fun or friends with benefits. If you are, that’s fine, but you’re not going to find it with me. I’m looking for someone I can connect with and form a, hopefully, lasting relationship.

My interests are.. basically reading. I read excessively, from shitty romance all the way to nonfiction. I’m currently on an Ancient Rome/Greece kick. Other than that, I’m writing a book and I enjoy Dragon Age: Inquisition, Criminal Minds, House, crime podcasts, Hamilton, drinking excessive amounts of caffeine, and long car rides.

I will probably never understand your movie references. I will have seen maybe 3/20 movies you ask me about. I will also not understand your TV references. Honestly I’m not much of a media consumer, in that type of way.

I am not your crunchy granola girl. I hate the outdoors. Bugs.. grass.. sunlight.. no thanks. I’m from Chicago. I’m a city person. But I hiked a mountain once and that was enough nature for me. I’m really just allergic to most things outside, and animals, so it’s not a good time for me. If I like you enough, I will do outdoorsy things, though.

I’m a democratic socialist, but generally hate talking about politics. It induces a sense of hopelessness that I try to avoid.

I’m non-religious, but I’ll do, generally speaking, whatever someone needs in regards to their religion to accommodate. For example, I’ll pray to your Christian God with you/ask you to pray for me in hard times, celebrate Imbolc, remind you which direction east is for your prayers, or go to Shabbat dinner. It’s all good with me, if you’re good with me.

My partner and I homestead. I eat fam fresh eggs every morning and I know where my chicken comes from and how it was treated.

I work an incredibly stressful, annoyingly neurotypical job. I’m somewhat of a workaholic. And that’s called generational trauma.

I am somewhere on the asexual spectrum. I wouldn’t say I’m straight up asexual, but I’m not quite greyace or demisexual either. I am a part of the BDSM community as a submissive leaning switch. Although, I do say that if I truly identify as anything in the BDSM community it’s as a sadist.

INTP and Physical Touch is my love language if you’re into that kind of thing.

I know that was a lot of information! I’m not the greatest at Reddit messaging because it eats my notifications but I have discord! wellbiancashappy

I hope to hear from you!

If all you have to say in your first message to me is “Hey, what’s up?” just don’t bother because I’m not going to respond to you. Thanks.