The something being something substantial. I'm 36, male, 5'11" 155lbs. I know this is more of a hookup sub, and while I'm open to that, my hope is to meet someone who likes me even when we're fully clothed. I've included some photos below, but long story short; I'm goofy, odd, witty, open-minded, affectionate, and looking for someone to spend my time and energy on on a regular basis. Someone who brings out my inner golden retriever.

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The M4A isn't about me being uncertain or desperate - I'm bi and inclusive, and don't want to discourage someone from messaging based on gender, identity, etc. I'm more experienced with women and femme thems, but it's not a hard rule. I'm not factoring race into my replies. If I do have a hangup, it's about age; I have a strong preference that you be ~4ish years in either direction of my age. There's wiggle room, but if there's a 15-year age gap, I'm not going to respond.

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I'm in the city proper, willing to travel throughout the city limits. Sorry, suburban folks and people in rural Illinois (unless you're willing to do like 95% of the driving). Ideally, I'd like to date someone who's affectionate, genuinely interested in being cute and sappy and all that. In a perfect world, you don't weigh down my life, I don't weigh down yours, and when we're together, it puts a smile on both of our faces.

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I'm looking for folks who are poly/ENM. You being single is a HUGE plus. Partnered folks are fine, but I'd be more interested in meeting someone who was looking for a primary/anchor/etc. If you're just interested in adding to your ho-tation, you probably won't have to do much convincing, but still, I'm ideally looking for something more than that. Because ENM takes so many forms, this can't possibly cover everything, so if I don't describe you and your style, feel free to chat about it.

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Anything else we can figure out by chatting. Thanks for reading, hope to hear from you! Yes, you.