Hi there!

My name is James, I’m 25 years old and I’m from the Netherlands. I’m gay and non-monogamous so queer ENM men who share my values are what I’m in the market for when it comes to connections that go beyond platonic friendships.

I’m a tattoo apprentice, I work for a project focussed on consent and I’m starting sex work in a couple of weeks. The sex work will both be with ‘regular’ clients and I’m also going to be doing tender care/sexual caregiving which is sex work exclusively catered to people with disabilities, both of which I’m very excited about. On the topic of disabilities; I have autism and ADHD and a huge, huge preference for other ND’s (who will also be my main client base for said work). It just comes naturally. I also choose to live fully sober. I use ADHD meds because I need those to function, but I’ve been strictly off recreational drugs (including alcohol) for 8 years and intend to keep it that way.

I also write - I have two books published but I spend most of my writing time on Harry Potter (Marauder’s era) fan fiction (although JKR can kiss my whole ass).

On that note, ethics are very important to me. I’m nearing a decade of veganism and I help run a vegan activist organization for which I do social media management, volunteer management and recruiting, and I also am the spokesperson. Other philosophies I strongly believe in are antinatalism and antireligionism. “Be the change” is a motto I live by.

I like to sing (and am practicing harsh vocals), I love music. My favorite bands currently are Ghost, Cattle Decapitation and Batushka. I’m trying to learn tin whistle but it’s a slow process, lol.

Long story short, I’m passionate by nature and I like to keep busy. There’s not enough time in the day for me to do everything I want to do.

My taste in men when it comes to looks… “Skinny pale guys with sunken eyes”, is how a former friend used to describe it. It’s fairly accurate, but of course there are men outside that description who I find hot too. Alternative boys have my heart. Long hair, tattoos and piercings… Beautiful.

Feel free to shoot me a message if this post piques your interest, also if you’re not looking to date me but want to connect platonically. I’m always open to meeting likeminded people. 🫶🏻